Post # 1
I’m no saint when it comes to eating healthy, but at a steady 113 I think I’m ok. DH is not doing so well. He’s gained nearly 40 lbs. since he quit smoking last year and his eating habits keep getting worse. A satisfying meal to him must have at least 2 appetizers, 2 side dishes, a heavy entree and dessert. That’s his first dinner. He usually eats a second one shortly before bed as well. All his weight is carried in his stomach, which is a bad thing. The rest of his body is skinny, my thighs are bigger that his! Last time we checked he weighed in at 210. He’s very upset about his weight and gave me permission to call him out when his eating gets out of control. I did this when we went out last night and he got angry. Wtf?! Why do you need coconut shrimp, salad, cheese biscuits and fries along with your gigantic bacon onion ring cheeseburger and 22oz beer? I try to buy healthy foods for at home but he eats such terrible stuff while he’s at work, and since he’s on the road he can take more than one meal break if he so chooses. I’m so worried about his cholesterol and high blood pressure. Working in cardiology, I see on a daily basis what happens to people like him. How do I get him to listen to me? I don’t want to be a young widow!
Post # 3
if he’s not ready to change, he won’t change. he’s obviously not seeing the problem. you see it, everyone around him sees it. but he doesn’t. so, it doesn’t exist to him.
trust me on this. my FI is diabetic, and eats crap. his parents are diabetic, and have such health issues, it’s not even funny. however, he doesn’t seem to get it. so, he continues to eat crap, and feels miserable. but he doesn’t see an issue. so he doesn’t make the changes.
you can buy the healthy food and make it. but he’ll probably just go buy the crappy food. and either hide it, or argue with you over it.
Post # 4
@Aquaria: Start slowly by cutting different things every week. For instance, the first week make it a goal to cut out fried foods, 2nd week try to only eat white meat, 3rd week cut out white bread and stick to whole grain only, etc. Try to make it a game between the 2 of you and look for new exciting recipes to make for him! Oh and remind him he has a cheat meal once a week, that always makes me feel sane when I am dieting! Small changes make huge differences in the long run!
Post # 5
@b53191: i agree.
he needs to be gradually weened off of the crap and start to incorporate more and more healthy stuff.
Post # 6
Only keep healthy food in the house and pack him lunches every day. Only go out to eat with him once every week or two. If he does not want to change, it will be hard.
Post # 7
@Aquaria: If you figure it out, let me know 😛 Seriously though, no one will make a change unless they want to. If you nag the person, then s/he will just become resentful of you. I absolutely understand your concern and perhaps your man would be more receptive to changing his lifestyle if the advice came from his doctor? Lots of people gain weight after they quit smoking and I have heard that the extra weight is still healthier than smoking. It’s not an excuse, but unless he’s ready to change his lifestyle again, he won’t.