How do I get married in the Catholic church?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 2
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188 posts
Blushing bee

 

Hi!! I’m a non-Catholic being married in a Catholic ceremony. Your FI and you can marry as long as he’s baptized. You still can if he’s not but it’s not considered a ‘sacriment’. You’ll need to speak to a Priest about getting married. You’ll need to do a marriage prep course. Most Priests are very kind and are going to be happy you’re getting married, especially since you have children. I don’t think your children being baptised or not will have anything to do with a wedding. They may ask that you try to attend a few masses first, but really, don’t be scared! I don’t think you’re required to go to confession about anything. I mean, based on Catholic beliefs from what I understand you ‘should’ go to confession about pre-marital shenanigans (I’m so mature), but I highly doubt your marriage hinges upon it.

Post # 3
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564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

southern_sweetheart91:  

If you were baptised and confirmed- they will consider you ‘Catholic”- however some priests will only marry members of the parish. You could try Catholic “church-shopping” or talk to the priest at your parents’ church as they may be willing to marry you and your fiance due to your connection with the Church.

A Catholic (and a non-Catholic Christian) can get married in the Catholic church IF they promise to raise the children Catholic ( so there may be some baptisms in their future). (As far as I’ve heard anyway). Although if you do the full-mass your non-Catholic fiance will not be able to take communion. If he converts to Catholicism- he will be able to take communion with you.

I suggest you check out a church near you and chat with the priest- see how it goes 🙂

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  plum_pudding.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Going to confession: since it is considered a sin to have sex out of marriage, going to conffession would be preferable.  Technically, you should not recieve communion prior to going to confession.  There is part of the mas though that works as confession, and it definatly is not enforced.  Honestly, though, there is no harm in going to confession, and most churches will offer it right before mass, so just show up early and look for the confessional. 

Converting: Not necessary, but it does take dispensation to marry someone who is not Catholic.

Baptism for your children:  This is going to be dicey.  Technically, part of getting married in the church, both you and your spouce agree to raise your children Catholic.  I am not sure on what the priest will say, but it will be something you need to talk about.

Really, the best advice for answer questions about getting married in the church is to talk to a priest about it.  They are the gate keepers as to what happens.

Post # 5
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188 posts
Blushing bee

Note about the communion: If you’re marrying a non-Catholic, they will likely encourage you to not do a full mass as it highlights things that separate you as he will not be able to take communion. So you won’t necessarily have to deal with that. And we do not require dispensation to marry and I’m a non-Catholic, they just required baptismal records or a letter signed by two witnesses that I was baptized. But as everyone has said, go talk to a priest.

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Quick warning: Some parishes require you not to live together during your engagement. The priest will tell you if that’s the rule at the church you are considering, so you can make a decision on how to proceed if that’s a deal breaker for you.

Good luck!

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