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What if you offered to pay her for it? If you bought a guestbook, it would cost money anyways, and this way you can have exactly what you want.
I think offering to pay for it is one way, but probably at the end of the process of talking to her.
I would first tell her just how wonderful you thought it was, and how you would like to know how she made it. Then ask her if she could help you make it. If she offers to make it at that point, offer to pay her, and is she refuses, insist on buying her the materials.
Beyond that, unless she does some crafting for income on the side, I don't think there is much more that you can do.
Well, I mean, don't you think she'd be flattered if I asked her to do it over just buying some random thing? It's not like I'm asking her out of necessity. Some brides are like taskmasters and make their BMs do all their s**t for them. If it was me, I'd be flattered if someone thought I was talented enough to make something beautiful to be on display at their wedding. I want to put a sign next to it that says something like "Guestbook hand-crafted with love by BM" or some such thing to basically tell everyone that she's the bomb.
I think she'd be completely flattered! Depending on how close you are, she might not even expect or think about asking you to pay for it.. If you offered though, I think it would be better, even if she declined payment.
Yeah, I guess some people are taskmasters, so I might be the wrong person to ask. I feel terrible about telling them what dress to buy, much less showers and bachelorettes and all that.
Just ask! You're not being a task master if you are politely asking someone to share their talents with you. Knowing who has what talents and how to utilize them is the sign of a smart bride (or even project manager)! Two of my BMs are crocheting part of the favors for the shower. Technically, my mom asked them to do it, but I told her who had the skillz to do the job.
Haha it's even funnier cause her BF (almost fiance - I give it 6 months MAX before they are engaged) is an amazing painter and I REALLY want one of his paintings as a wedding gift from them. That, of course, I would never straight up ask for, although I did happen to mention the fact that that is what I would want to by MOH (who is a mutual friend)... ;)
::crosses fingers for amazing painting by talented up-and-coming artist::
Just ask! She's your BM afterall. You two must be close or she wouldn't be in the wedding. I know when I was a BM (before bing engaged) I had no idea what the bride needed help with. I kept telling her to tell me what to do and asking how I could help and she didn't say much. When she finally gave me a task, I felt like I was finally serving my purpose (to stand by her side at the wedding AND help with what I could). I think she'd be excited to help you and honored that you were asking for help with such a personal part of your wedding.
Good Luck!
I agree with monitajb....tell her how much you loved the scrapbook that she made and offer to pay her to make one for you. You would have to purchase one anyway. I know as a BM there were DIY things that I wanted to do for the bride, but due to finances I wasn't able to unless the bride purchased the materials. When you are a BM, those expenses add up and I think it would put your BM in an awkward position if you asked her without offering to pay. I think it would be a nice gesture to give your BM the credit even if you pay for the materials b/c it will still be her time and artistic ability that brings it all together.
Put yourself in her shoes. If you were in her wedding and you had made something for her that she thought was absolutely fantastic and she wanted you to make another one for her to use as a part of her wedding, how would you react? Personally, I would be incredibly flattered and honored to make something like that. Especially if there were a sign next to it that said "Yo, redherring made this and you could only hope to rock as much as she does." 
Dude, just ask her. Offer to pay but if she's a super good friend like you said she'll probably just say, "STFU, You're not giving me any money" and that'll be the end of that. Good luck! :)
For some reason I didn't read this right at all. I thought it said that she made HERSELF a book you like. Instead, she gave YOU the book. Oh.
Then I would be more direct. She clearly has a super giving spirit, and is at least sometimes willing to do such a time consuming activity for others.
I agree, just ask! My one bridesmaid is an incredibly talented graphic design major. I wanted a monogram. I called her and was like "When you get time someday if you don't mind... would you be willing to make us a monogram?!" She was all for it! It turned out great :)
I would just ask her if she would do it, so long as you pay for materials.
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When we were in college, one of my BMs made me this beautiful journal - she did all this intricate beadwork on the cloth and then bound the journal. I was in love with it. I REALLY want to have her do the same in my wedding colors (teal cloth with orange beading) and use it as a guestbook but I feel like an ass being like HEY BM do this really intricate and time-consuming thing for my wedding.
Any suggestions?