(Closed) How do I get my SO to stop framing (yes framing) random stuff?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yikes! I have a similar situation (but it’s not my DH, just a relative) and I put up the pictures when they come to visit.

If I were you I’d explain to him that you and him are more important than just you and you want your house to showcase both of you. Ie, get rid of pictures of only you (or cartoons or your mock trial team) and put up things that represent both of you (wedding pics). Tell him it’s a sweet gift, but you really want to make decorating decisions together.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Tell him you love the idea of framing little moments from your life, and that you’d like to rotate them on a regular basis, like swapping out the kid’s drawings on the fridge.

Put something new in the frame, and either change it out again in 6 mths, or when the time comes tell him you feel like the photo (or whatever) is such a perfect match for the frame he picked that you don’t want to change it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Can you get him to put the stick figure and letter and other important moments in your lives in one shadowbox frame as a compromise?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

This cracks me up.  Very sweet, but I can see how it would get overwhelming.  We have a lack of displayable wall space in our place as well.

I think the cartoon stays where it is, but you should do like another poster suggested, and ask him if the one with the letter can be your “proud frame” or something like that.  Say something like “we have so little wall space, and I want to showcase your achievements just as much as mine”  Then you can put whatever you or him are proud of at the moment and then promise to album whatever comes out of the frame to be replaced.  Then hopefully by the time your teammates come over the letter will have rotated out.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it sounds like you need to be honest, trying to prevent hurt feelings  previously has now just made him think you love this hobby of his. Be honest, tell him what you want to do, just try not to come off as accusatory. Tell him that while you appreciate the gesture and thought, you would much rather get to look at a great photo of the 2 of you then a comic you are all laughed out at now.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I really want to see pictures of his collection lol

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

He sounds soooo sweet!! I love how excited he gets! I would tell him you love them but that his frames need to be smaller since they take up so much room. This could be a good compromise. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Even just the title of your post made me laugh! I’m sorry, but this is a really funny problem!

It reminds me of my Dad and Step-Mom, because she paints everything. Even in my Dad’s speech at their wedding he mentioned it. She even wanted to paint her wedding hat! (she wore a pretty white sun hat)

Lol, I have no advice, just had to chime in. I think if that’s your worst problem with him, you’re doing ok lol.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m a big fan of electronic frames.  They cost like 25$ and you can put tons of pics on them.  if he got you one of those he could put all the pics he wanted on it, and change them up, and surprise you with new ones…if you noticed πŸ™‚

I love that he does the framing thing…so if it were me I could say that and really mean it…the lack of wall space would be the problem for me and an electronic frame would make me happy so I’d still get surprises…and probably cheaper in the long run because framing isn’t cheap πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! That’s the most awesom, sweetest, most hillarious first world problem I’ve heard in a while. πŸ˜€ I think you should just let him fill every nook and cranny of all of your walls with framed awesomeness like it’s a game of tetris. πŸ˜€

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Asia:  This.  Yes!

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