How do I get out of this?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  If you really don’t want to go then talk to your supervisor about it.

 

Explain that you don’t have the money at the moment to cover these things, even if you are going to be reimbursed (I totally understand this!).

 

EDIT: I’ve lived both in DC and (currently) in the VA suburbs and you’re right on in your food assessment, and that’s assuming you don’t go to any nicer restaurants (when we go out to eat at “normal” places FI and I usually run up about a $50-60 tab).

 

Maybe she would be willing to help split the cost or cover your part of it, if she will get paid back anyway.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  You also mentioned they’re covering your hotel cost and parking costs (again, after the fact) – what area of DC is this convention being held at, and how close would you want to stay to it?  Parking around here (especially at hotels) can routinely be around $20-25/day.  Hotels in the actual city, especially downtown and close to where this will probably be, can easily run $250/night.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If I were in your place, I would make every effort to go. These things can be career changing.

Phone the hotel and tell them you neeed a fridge for your medication. They will assue you are diabetic and will provide a fridge. You can stock it with fruit, yogurt etc  for breakfast. Take granola from home. While you are on the phone with the hotel ask if there is any way they can provide a small microwave. Tell them you have many food allergies and dining out is a problem for you. I have never had a hotel not accomodate my requests. When my kids were little and I was still a single parent, we didn’t get anything paid upfront and it was really hard to do the travel that was required of my job. This is how I survived.

Be open with your supervisor that you are saving for your wedding and cannot afford to eat out to the scale that she may be used to or  go to attractions that have an admission fee. Do some research ahead of time so you have a list of alternatives that do not charge a fee, so you can be busy while she is elsewhere.

Post # 9
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Haha, my DH is DYING next to me–He thinks if your career is important to you, that a major networking event is an amazing oppertunity!

He occasionally does on business trips from 9-24 days, and MANY more 2-4 day long trips! He doesn’t like leaving me or dealing with reimbursement, but he accepts networking is one of the best things you can do for your career.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am not the kind of person who gets anything out of conventions/conferences.  Part of it has to do with the fact that I get super bored in the lecture-type presentations, and part of it is that I am deeply uncomfortable with the idea of “networking” (blame my introversion).  I only attend conferences when I’m involved in organizing them in some way.  If I were in your situation, I would not go.  

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@MichiganGirl24:  I don’t know if its worth asking. If flying is truly cheaper (obviously it’s faster) I would campaign to fly- is she really that opposed?

Post # 15
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Those are both pretty pricey hotels – if you’re staying 4 nights you’re looking at around $900 at least.

Post # 16
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Just saying you need to have the money discussion with her ASAP!  If she’s prepared to cover the hotel cost up front and get reimbursed maybe you can then swing the food for yourself.

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