(Closed) How do I get rid of my MOH?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Let her down easily, thank her for all of the support she has given you, but let her know that her help and support have been lacking and provide her with the examples you just gave us, but definitely cut her out of the equation she sounds untrustworthy and unsupportative to your wedding and a disaster waiting to happen.

 

Post # 4
Member
386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with what  @mija22:  said.

and….Did she really ask you where the wedding is going to be? 

I would ask her to step aside.

Post # 5
Member
1800 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with the PPs

Post # 6
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m confused…you said you didn’t pick her because she was close to you but instead because you thought she would do a lot for you. If I thought this, I probably wouldn’t try very hard either Undecided

Post # 7
Member
8020 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I can’t believe that anyone would talk like this about a friend? She isn’t an employee (for the wedding) she is a friend who you have asked to pay you the honour of standing up for you during your wedding yet it seems like you are treating her like a personal assistant. I can see why she got too busy to help!

Did you even send her an invite since it is clear by the where is the wedding question that she hasn’t received one. You said she could pick her own dress then went back on it? She finally called you? Did you even try to call her? I mean it is clear that you excluded her from the email loop so I can kind of see why she is out of the loop!

Sorry but I would probably step down from a wedding if a friend was treating me like this!

Post # 8
Member
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

you don’t….. I feel like you can’t just “fire” somebody 5 weeks before the wedding when she has been thinking for months she was the MOH, bought an expensive dress, and helped out. I think telling somebody else that she is the second MOH is a bad idea…. 

Post # 9
Member
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yeah, I’m with ohmystars28 on this one – you asked her to be MOH because she could do the most for you? Maybe it’s different here in Australia, but we tend to pick bridesmaids and MOHs based on who we are closest to emotionally, rather than physically. I understand that you didn’t want to put much pressure on your friends that had a lot of other things going on in their lives (e.g. studying for the bar, etc.). If you asked me to be your MOH based solely on the fact that I would be most ‘convenient’ and able to help you, I would be offended and annoyed.

I know you said that you haven’t tried to expect too much of your bridesmaids, but perhaps this woman was initially honoured to be asked to be your MOH, then realised that you chose her because it was easier for you. I’d be a little offended in that situation….

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