- 6 years ago
Ok, sorry this is a long rant but I am just sooo fed up!!! I’ve basically given up. My SO and I have had the same fight for 11 months and he doesn’t care to do anything about it. He stays at my house 3-4 days a week. Watches my tv, usees my electricity, eats my food, etc. He does not pay for a SINGLE bill. Okay, he doesn’t technically live there but it would be nice to get some help when my electric bill went for $30 to a whopping $137 because he wanted the air on. Fine, don’t pay any bills, but he could at least help out around the house!!! I’m so sick and tired of his laziness!! His definition of trying and “helping out” is taking ONE garbage bag down to the garage when there are THREE. Tying the garbage bag and leaving it IN the kitchen and NOT putting a garbabe liner back in. RINSING a dish and putting it on the KITCHEN counter not the dishwasher. If he’s going to do things half assed, it’s just easier for me to do it all myself. I clean on the weekends and then by sunday my house looks like S**T because he eats at my coffee table and gets food all over the floor and water marks all over my glass table when I have told him a MILLION times to use a coaster. I bought some paintings that sat in their boxes for months because no matter how many times I asked him to put them up, he was just too lazy. I got sick of it and did it myself. I had a bookshelf for about a month before he took it out of the box and left all the pieces laying in my spare bedroom for the cats to get at. So, yet again I put it together myself. He brought over a fan that he was going to put up…yup, that’s been sitting around for months. He brought over tools and wood to buld a cat tree…I’m guessing you know the status of that!! He tells me he’s going to scrub down my shower because it’s so gunky and needs some man power…yup, did that myself! Then he always complains , “I was going to do that!!’ I would F***ing die before any of this s**t got done!! I kept telling him to buy cat food because they were running low. Everyday he came home with nothing until the cats had NO food. They were happy because all I had left was canned food but come on! I told him this weekend I needed kitty litter…..still don’t have any!! He drives MY car and uses MY gas because he’s too lazy to fix his car. He drives his all around for work but for some reason once he gets to my house it’s just unusable. I CAN’T TAKE IT!!!! Mind you, he spend 2 hours a couple weeks ago putting in an air conditioner for a friend or does all his grandma’s yardwork and cleans up her house. HELLO!??! I feel like I’m being used. He thinks because he pays for us to go out to eat (once a week or less) that he is contributing. He tells me he has a bad memory. Ok, I remind him to do shit ALL the time and he still doesn’t do it!! He is like this in every aspect of his life though. We went to his friends wedding and I KNEW he wouldn’t get them a card. After a while I stopped reminding him…Yeah, we were late to his wedding because we had to stop at Walgreens and pick up a card! He tells me he’s going to change and help out, but he doesn’t. I told him yesterday I can’t live my life like this. That his words mean nothing to me because I have told him that same thing for the past 11 months. Every other aspect of our relationship is great but I just can’t deal with someone who is not going to help out around the house. If he paid some bills, I wouldn’t be as pissed. He tells me how much he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me but now those words mean nothing to me. How can you love someone yet continue to do the same shit that you say you’re going to change??? I’m just so pissed and frustrated!!
He is great in every other aspect of our relationship. He’s always there for me. Cooks dinner most of the time. Listens. Picks up little things while he’s at the store that he knows I’ll like. Things are great in our relationship if I just let him do as he pleases and keep my mouth shut. I’m tired of doing that, though! If you knew you were going to lose your girlfriend over your actions wouldn’t you think instead of just giving me empty promises, you would do something? How hard is it to take out the garbage or do some dishes? I feel like I’m being used because as much as he says he loves me, he can’t do those things to keep me?