How do I get through all this ????

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Are you also Mennonite?  That could be the crux, my MIL family come from Mennonites, though I don’t know a whole lot about them. I do know pretty similar in ways of Amish and it could be he is feeling a loss of his culture?

Post # 4
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@krathman:  +1, Sassygrn! Yes he may be dealing with the loss of his culture, his way of being and the only way of being with which he grew up. This may even be an identity crisis for him, a feeling that he has completely lost himself. 

It sounds to me like couples counseling could be very helpful to the two of you. I’m not really sure what you should do in your situation but if I were you I would deal with this sooner rather than later. It sounds like you could be really happy together but maybe have some things to work out. A couples counseling environment would provide you with the space to discuss your feelings about what is going on and safely find out what is going on with him. 

Post # 6
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think he needs to work out his issues with his background before he can properly concentrate on having a healthy relationship with you. If this means some time apart then, sadly, this might be better for you as well as him. It isn’t your fault that he can’t reconcile his past but you don’t have to stick around to bear the brunt of his anger. 

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