How do I handle this?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 8
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2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Think of all the reasons that it is wonderful to be childless right now.

1. Babies don’t stay babies. They get older and snottier very quickly. They turn into adults who you have no control over. It’s not just 18 years; it’s your whole life from that point on. A whole life of worry and fear and responsibility.

2. Movie nights/date nights/sitting in front of the TV/girl’s nights are greatly reduced. If you feel like reading Cosmo and doing your nails, you don’t even have that freedom. If you feel disgusting and are home alone with baby and want to shower, you don’t have that freedom. Think of waiting for nap time and even then having a baby monitor attached to you at all times.

3. Post-partum depression. A few months of thinking to yourself, “Why did I have this baby?” is very possible.

4. Money, money, money. Forget buying the new top you wanted or going on vacation next year. Do you want your kids to go to college? Better start saving now.

5. Spending 9 months in a body that you do not recognize and may not recognize for months after giving birth. Stretch marks, dark nipples, wider hips, saggy boobs.

I don’t know how old you are, but once you have them, that’s it. There’s no going back. You will never get the no-child years back. Even after they grow up and move out ( IF they ever do; people are taking longer these days to get out on their own),  you will be tied to them.

Some of these reasons might be a bit dramatic or may not apply to you, but it’s what I came up with off the top of my head. I’m 27 and undecided on children, but have lots of nieces and nephews. I love them, but I also love it when they go home after a weekend of babysitting and I am FREE.

Post # 10
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know this wasn’t the point of your post, but I am shocked that someone would leave their 9 month old for 5 days to go camping!  I have a 22 month old and I can’t imagine leaving him with someone other than my husband for 1 night, let alone 5!  Enjoy your time with the little one and be sure to give him lots of cuddles!  Only you and your SO will know when the time is right for a baby. 

Post # 11
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2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@cloverbug:  I don’t tend to get baby fever. Sometimes it will hit me a little bit after watching a Pamper’s commercial or seeing a woman at the store with an adorable child. All the pros to being childless and the cons to having a child are what I think on when that happens, and it usually solves it for me. I also worry about how having children would affect my relationship with my SO; I don’t want to be the type of woman her puts him on the back burner one day because of kids. That’s why I typed out the response I did; it works for me.

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