Post # 1
I am planning my wedding and am having trouble figuring out how to include my step dad.
My own dad will most likely walk me down the isle. My parents divorced when I was 16 and alothough I haven’t always seen eye to eye with my dad and I did in fact live with my mum, he’s still my dad and he means well and has been a consistant part of my life.
My step dad came on the scene when I was about 18 and has been a rock for my mum, she has never been so happy. We’ve grown to have a really cool relationship and he has heaps in common with my fiance.
My stepdad doesn’t have any children of his own and I am my mums only child, so really this is his only opportunity to play a parently role at a wedding.
I don’t want to lessen my dads involvement in the wedding because he is important and I don’t want to insult him or make him feel bad, but I do want to acknowledge the part my step dad plays in my life and make it special for him as well.
I’ve read lots of posts saying to have the father daughter dance spilt between dad and step dad or have them both walk me down the isle, but they aren’t exactly “best mates” so I’m not sure I’m comfortable with this.
Post # 3
I’m giving my step dad a special bout to wear. My fella’s dad and my Pa and my stepdad are all wearing them. My dad isn’t attending the wedding cos we’re not close and I wanted to do something for my stepdad. My mum’s walking me down the aisle.
Post # 4
I’m really close with my stepdad. I am having both him and my father walk me down the aisle. In addition I will be doing 2 father-daughter dances; one with each of them. My father can’t stand my stepdad, but he’s going to have to suck it up.
If you are having your wedding at the church, could he do a reading? Are you doing a slideshow? If so you can incorporate pictures of how he has been a part of your life. You can do that to in a speech or in the ceremony programs.
That’s all I got right now. I’ll be curious as to what others are doing. Best of luck!
Post # 5
Maybe it’s as simple as when the officant ask who gives this women to marry this man … your father could say “Her mother and Stepfather and I do”. This will give some pubic acknowledgement.
Post # 6
Looks like you posted twice… I replied in the other one but I’ll add it to this one too:
Both my dad and stepdad are a big part of my life. When I get married, I plan on having them both walk me down the aisle. I am lucky that they get along, but even if they didn’t I’d like to think that they could put aside their differences for one day to make their daughter happy at her wedding.
I think if you talk to them about it and reassure them that you love them both and they are both important to you, they will understand.
That being said, I’m not sure I want a father-daughter dance at all, because I’d have to pick one to dance with first… whereas walking you down the aisle together feels more like you see them as equally important in your life.
Post # 7
Fiance and I are going to hand roses to all of our parents during the ceremony as a thanks to all they’ve done for us