- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Hi there, a bit a help and advice needed.
A bit of background, me and my fiancé got engaged in October. We have known for along time, 8 years. The catch, we met online on a music forum. She is in the states, I am in England (not for long). We have met, this isn’t an e-engagement. But my mother has not met my partner, obvious reasons the Atlantic that and I live quite far away from my mom. My partner is coming over for christmas, and we plan to tell her at the start of December.
Here is the thing my father died about 13 years ago, and I know my mother would love for him to be there with her when she gets told. My plan was to take her, my fiancé and I for a meal and break it to her that way. However, I’m not sure if I should also bring my half-sister from my fathers side as a representative for him, as she already knows about the engagement, but I have a feeling my mother could see this as us ganging up on her.
Also, to be honest I’m not exactly sure how I should tell my mum, ideally I want to tell her in no uncertain terms that this is the lady I love and whom I am going to spend the rest of my life with. But that is a bit crass, no matter how frank and sincere it is. And she may find it a bit odd, that I’m rocking up with this girl who she barely knows and telling her I’m getting engaged.
I have spoken to my half brother (from my mums previous marriage) and my half sister (from my dads) and they both said that she will be “surprised” but happy for us, and I hope she is. But ideas on how to tell her would be massively welcome
Too long; didn’t read; How do i tell my mum I’m engaged.