(Closed) How do I let the girl that thought she is MOH….

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

You may want to be careful about using your real name on the boards (and your cousin’s too!).

If you want to repost this with a new username, we can delete this original thread for you… or if it’s ok either way, that’s fine too.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Are you still planning to have Lauren in your wedding?  I think if you are at least having her as a bridesmaid it will be easier to deal with letting her down in the MOH department.  

Hopefully she will be so happy you asked her to be in the wedding she wont mind if she’s not the MOH.   

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

The best thing you can do is be honest with her. Explain that you love her and want her to be a part of your wedding as a bride’s maid, but that you have asked your other cousin to be maid of honor because you are much closer to her.

The only other option I can see would be to make the cousins co-maids of honor.

 

Good luck!

MissRain

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmmm I think you just need to ask her to be a bridesmaid. She may not get upset… or has she already said something to you? Either way, don’t make her MoH just because you made a pact when you were a little girl! Is there any excuse (i.e. she lives farther away from you than your other cousin) you can give as to why your other cousin is a more convenient option?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Co-MOH’s are pretty common!  You could divvy up the traditional "duties" of a MOH between the two of them, so they don’t step on each other’s toes…

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree- be honest so you don’t feel like you’re avoiding the subject for your entire wedding planning process. I also like the idea of dividing the duties, still make her feel included and important.

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