Post # 1
I am planning a wedding for september of 2015, and it is going to be on the small side (max 75 guests), and I am not doing any bridesmaids, just a maid of honor (my cousin). Having bridesmaids isn’t an option for many reasons, but a close friend of mine is really excited and involved in the planning process. My question for you all is this: how can I make her a part of my wedding, even though she’s not my MOH? she has been so happy for me and I just wish there was a way to make her feel “officially” involved!
Thanks everyone 🙂
Post # 2
vanka023: um…maybe just introduce her as your best friend?
Post # 3
Give her a reading to do in the ceremony?
Post # 4
SarahLulu: vanka023: A reading is a good option. Another option is for her to MC the reception, if she’s the sort of person who’s comfortable doing that. (MC needn’t do much, it can be as little as introducing the speeches).
Or, you could make sure you do some photos with her during the photo time.
I would avoid roles that require a lot of her time, e.g. guest book attendant.
Post # 5
Agree with PPs ideas. You could also give her the option of being with you as you get ready.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I would edit the title “apart of the wedding” is very different from “a part from the wedding” 🙂
Being there while you get ready would be fun for her I think!
Post # 7
if you’re having a rehearsal dinner, you can invite her and honor her in some way (gift, etc).
Post # 8
Let her hang out with you as you prepare for the wedding. She probably just would be happy to spend time with you!
Post # 9
It should be enough to have her involved in the wedding process as a good friend — which is exactly what she is. I find situations where brides try to create a role to make someone feel ‘special’ is like catering to a child who wants to feel involved. I’m sure your friend doesn’t need a title or a speech to understand that she’s your close friend.
Post # 10
I asked my best friend to read at the ceremony. I’m probably going to also ask her to be the MC at the reception.
Post # 11
If she is being very involved in the planning and giving you her time, I think getting her a nice thank you gift would be appropriate. Especially if it is something sentimental and given to her the night before/morning of the wedding, she will probably feel special and appreciated as a friend.
Post # 12
I had 2 of my closest friends to me also not in the bridal party but i wanted them to be but they couldnt (a whole different story) ,, anyway, one of them if from work, another girl Ive known for years. They ended up planning my hens night – yes I had two and I didnt know about it.
Long story short – get them to be responsible for something leading up to your wedding, like plan your hens or bridal shower?