(Closed) how do i make my request more clear? please help with wording!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Narrow down the choices for her. It sounds like she does not want the responsibility of choosing her own dress. Send her pics of only 4 dresses and have her choose one.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Be more specific.  She clearly wants/needs more direction, so simply pick a dress (preferably one that comes in both colors) and send her a link, or even pick 3 dresses.  But narrow down her choices, it sounds like she wants you to tell her exactly what you want; so– make the choice for her.  If she complains, then tell her you gave her plenty of time to choose on her own. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

can you go out dress shopping WITH her? Then you can show her dresses in person.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Choose it for her.  She might just be terrified of offending you with the “wrong” choice.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t give her as many choices of what can have. Say: pick either dark blue or dark purple (attach a color swatch), knee length, and a chiffon fabric. I would gather a few websites for her to go to, NOT specific dresses. Just find some legit websites for her to visit…maybe you can find some local bridal shops that have websites?

If she doesn’t get it then I think she has a different problem. Either that or she is just being way too picky and you need to pick it for her and that is that.

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