Post # 1
this is sort of a follow up to my post yesterday. i have 2 bridesmaids that have bought their dresses and 1 that i’ve messaged, emailed, and tried to call but wasn’t responding about getting her dress. i emailed her yesterday and told her she’s the only one i haven’t heard from yet but would like to know at least which color she’s going to pick since we’re trying to coordinate the bridesmaid dresses with the groomsmen’s ties, vests, and handkerchiefs. my 2 emails before that, over the course of a few months, were pics of 16 bridesmaid dresses from the alfred angelo web site that are all knee length and chiffon, and i said “here are a handful of dresses as an example of what to choose. i’m okay with either dark purple or dark blue, just let me know which color you choose.”
my bridesmaid emailed me back today and said she’s received all of my emails and links with pics but she’s still confused as to what i want. i’m not sure how to make it any more clear!
the thing is, many many months ago when i thought they would all wear the same dress, i started sending them suggestions and they didn’t like any of them. so i decided mismatched is ok as long as its the same length and type of fabric, then they wanted different colors so now its jewel tones blue and purple. i feel like i’ve been very flexible and i feel like i can’t win! she wants guidance but didn’t like any of my previous suggestions. what do i do?????
Post # 3
Narrow down the choices for her. It sounds like she does not want the responsibility of choosing her own dress. Send her pics of only 4 dresses and have her choose one.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Be more specific. She clearly wants/needs more direction, so simply pick a dress (preferably one that comes in both colors) and send her a link, or even pick 3 dresses. But narrow down her choices, it sounds like she wants you to tell her exactly what you want; so– make the choice for her. If she complains, then tell her you gave her plenty of time to choose on her own.
Post # 5
can you go out dress shopping WITH her? Then you can show her dresses in person.
Post # 6
thats the thing, when i tried just sending her pics of individual dresses that i liked and suggested she didn’t like any of them. at least the other girls liked some of them but they just couldn’t agree on which ones, so thats why i decided to just let them pick their own.
Post # 7
we live in different states and i wasnt able to shop with her the last time i visited because i had to take my dad to the emergency room on that trip. now i don’t have enough money to fly back there and visit again before the wedding
Post # 8
Choose it for her. She might just be terrified of offending you with the “wrong” choice.
Post # 9
Don’t give her as many choices of what can have. Say: pick either dark blue or dark purple (attach a color swatch), knee length, and a chiffon fabric. I would gather a few websites for her to go to, NOT specific dresses. Just find some legit websites for her to visit…maybe you can find some local bridal shops that have websites?
If she doesn’t get it then I think she has a different problem. Either that or she is just being way too picky and you need to pick it for her and that is that.