How do I, NOT mention, BBQ?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee

Why do you need to?  I can’t ever remember receiving a wedding invitation telling me what I was going to eat unless you had choose an entree.  All of my girls (and I) had buffets so we made no mention of what we were serving.

Post # 4
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3627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it’s necessary to mention you are serving BBQ as long as you’ve asked guests about dietary restrictions and allergies. The only time I’ve ever be clued in about what would be served is when 1) the couple told me in a casual conversation or 2) I had to pick an entree. BBQ isn’t so exotic that your guests would be uncomfortable with it, unlike extremely ethnic cuisine, for example.

Post # 7
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2444 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyMoriarty:  We served a southern meal, too. i didn’t include it on invites. our wedding was still formal, but family style. 🙂

Post # 8
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5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@LadyMoriarty:  I don’t see why you need to, I’ve been to a couple of weddings that did BBQ and its always appreciated to have oversized napkins, & finger bowls available if I’m going to be chowing on some Q

Post # 10
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3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LadyMoriarty:  Just don’t mention it on the invitation, and put a dress code in the bottom right corner 

Post # 11
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee

It is very thoughtful of you to ask about dietary restrictions, but I think if you state what you are serving you might be opening Pandora’s box there.  FTR – I would ADORE attending a BBQ wedding reception but so far it hasn’t happened. 🙁

 

Post # 12
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2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t mention the food at all.  I’ve never seen an invitation that did.  We are also having ‘classy’ bbq 🙂

Post # 13
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2444 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyMoriarty:  DH and i our vegan. We did find out through word of mouth if anyone had any dietary restrictions.  you could enclose a note on your response cards. 🙂

Post # 14
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3627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@LadyMoriarty:  No, I think that’s fine. We didn’t think to do that on our paper invitations/RSVPs, but I did remember to add it to the RSVP page on our website. I don’t think it’s weird to ask about that and not mention food otherwise. Most people with dietary restrictions and allergies are used to mentioning it anyway.

Post # 15
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1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I put a line at the bottom of the RSVP card that said:

“Please let us know of any dietary restrictions”

 

And left it at that.  I think it’s important to have something like that, esp when serving BBQ incase anyone is a veggie or GF etc.

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