Post # 1
FI and I recently went ring shopping. I initially tried to persuade him to look at cobalt and tungsten rings for several reasons. He is always working outside/ on machinery and I know he will not always take his ring off when doing these things. An alternative metal would withstand wear and tear a lot better than gold. That being said, alternative metals are also a lot cheaper so if he did destroy or lose this kind of ring it wouldn’t be a huge deal. However, he fell in love with a $2200 white gold Tacori band. If I weren’t so worried about the ring getting lost/ruined I wouldn’t mind paying this much for a ring. However, I just have a really bad feeling that somethinig will happen to his ring. I am SO careful with my e-ring. I always take it off to clean, shower, sleep, and go to the gym. I guarantee he won’t be this way though. He has his mind set on this ring. What should I do?!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Could you purchase this ring, and a $30 titanium one off of amazon? Then he could wear the nice one when you are out together, to see family, etc but the cheap one to work?
Post # 4
@dewingedpixie: GREAT idea, love it!
Post # 5
FI and I are sticking with tungsten for his ring mainly because of OP’s reasons. He dings it off things constantly and the promise ring I got him over a year ago has no scratching on it whatsoever.
Post # 6
If he works with his hands, you ABSOLUTELY want him to have a gold ring.
Cobalt, titanium and many other alternative metals cannot be cut off of fingers. If he were to get his hand or finger caught in machinery a titanium ring would be very bad. He could end up losing his entire finger.
Please get a gold or silver band that can be cut off by EMT’s if necessary.
I have nothing to add about it being Tacori or costing a lot, except that I think he should get to pick what he wants, just as you did.
Post # 7
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_T: Honestly, at $2200, I would be upset if it got ruined NO MATTER WHAT! That’s a lot of money to spend on a ring that is so easily destroyed. I’m sure it will withstand far more than you think it will.
Post # 8
@Miss Leopard: Titanium can be cut off. I think it just needs to be cut in two places instead of one.
ETA Snopes link: http://www.snopes.com/weddings/horrors/titanium.asp
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Here is one that is $20 he could use as a work filler: http://www.amazon.com/Beveled-Comfort-Titanium-Wedding-Available/dp/B0059291XG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1364259643&sr=8-1&keywords=titanium+wedding+band
This one is $10 http://www.amazon.com/Polish-Finish-Titanium-Wedding-Grooves/dp/B005EHI8KS/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1364259643&sr=8-3&keywords=titanium+wedding+band
Nothing wrong with a man wanting something nice to look at too :). My fiance’s ring will cost about the same as the one your fiance wants. Considering my e-ring and wedding band cost over 5 times that I cant complain.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
And tungsten can be shattered if necessary.
Post # 11
How would you feel if the situation was reversed? He should get to pick the ring he wants to wear. Maybe it will get lost or damaged, but maybe it won’t and he’ll wear it for 50+ years.
Post # 12
Can’t you just insure the $2200 ring?
Post # 13
@Soon_To_Be_Mrs_T: Get it insured along with your engagement ring.
Post # 14
@cmbr: that’s a really good idea! I don’t know why I didn’t think of something so simple
Post # 16
Or just insure it! You can get a jewelry rider on your homeowner’s insurance, and I’m pretty sure there are reputable jewelry insurance places out there.