- miss forever
- 5 years ago
This may sound petty and frivolous, but I would still appreciate some advice here.
It started two years ago. A girlfriend of mine complained of having nothing to wear to her company’s dinner and dance. I listened in and she really sounded that she didn’t have much in her closet. Since I’m very into fashion and have lots of nice dresses, I offered for her to visit my home so she could pick something out. I let her try on two dresses…the first was a $200 dress that I had never worn before and the other was my 21st birthday dress that had a grecian feel. There were only two dresses she could fit in because she’s much slimmer and taller than me. She ended up borrowing the first dress. There was no problem and I was glad to help her out.
Fast forward to last year, I was really busy and stressed with school. She messaged me out of the blue (we don’t communicate at all. The only time she messages me is to ask to borrow my dress) saying that she would like to borrow the grecian dress she tried on the previous year for her company’s party again and she would go as a grecian princess. I was really busy and stressed so I didn’t reply her. Next came a message asking for my address and saying that she is already on her way to my house. I hadn’t even agreed to anything yet and I started getting annoyed because I felt like I was being used. Anyway I lent her the dress and despite her having washed my dress, it ended up smelling bad as it wasn’t dried properly. My mum was also slightly annoyed and told me not to lend her my dresses again. She also wrote me a thank you note saying, “…I hope I don’t have to borrow your dress again next year!”
Well, today, coming to the end of the year, I received another message from her asking if I had any dresses I thought would fit her and don’t mind lending. She started of by saying, “I think you are going to kill me…I went shopping yesterday but I couldn’t find anything…do you have anything I can borrow…?” Normally, I’d be flattered that people like my things and I’d love to help anyone out but my pet peeve is feeling like I’m being taken advantaged of. She has been working for two three years in a bank while I have only just graduated and am currently jobless. I think she should be able to well-afford a dress.
How can I put it nicely to her that I do not have any dresses to lend her? Sorry for the long post!