Post # 1
I got a wedding invitation yesterday. While I am excited about attending, I’m a bit puzzled on how to RSVP. There was no response card included in the invitation and nothing indicating the date by which a response is required.
I know the “correct” way is to send back a hand-written note that says something like:
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
accept with pleasure
the kind invitation of Miss Smith and Mr. Jones
Saturday, July 16, 2011
at 5:00 p.m.
But I have to admit, I’d feel a bit awkward doing that. This was the most INFORMAL wedding invitation I’ve ever seen. The invitation was issued by the couple. It referred to the bride and groom by their nicknames (think “Robbie Jones” instead of “Robert Michael Jones”), and included the language “let’s party” and “finally getting hitched.”
So somehow, in this case, the “correct” formal response doesn’t feel so “correct.” I’m guessing I should just call the bride? Would that be enough? When I asked my husband he laughed and said, “I think a text would do for that.”
Post # 3
I also received a wedding invitation that just said RSVP at the bottom but there was no contact information, no phone number and no email address and no response card. i think some people forget to include that information
Post # 4
I think just mentioning the wedding to her would be enough. Something like “hey, I’m excited to see you get married!” would be just fine :).
Post # 6
While I don’t see one thing wrong with an informal invite, it might have been nice if they could have given some guidance on how they wanted you to RVSP.
Maybe text to say yes and should you RVSP some other way?
Post # 7
Back in the day of punch/cake receptions and buffet style receptions, RSVP cards weren’t included (that I can remember anyway). I actually remember my brother’s wedding, him taking the guest list and saying, “Okay 80% of this many will attend” and that’s how they planned for cake and food.
I think I would send a text and say, “Not sure if you needed an RSVP, but I do plan on attending.” Please keep us updated – I’m curious if it was intentionally left out or whether they just forgot.
Post # 8
I would keep the same level of formality (or lack of!) I’d text, FB or call and let them know you’re coming…
Maybe they just forgot or didn’t think about it, who knows! 🙂
Post # 9
The correct way, is to respond in the same form as that in which the invitation was received. It would be pomous, not correct, to send a formal third-person-worded response to an informal note. If the invitation had come by text, you would text back your reply. If the invitation comes by phone, you phone your reply.
In this case, the correct way to reply is in a slangily-worded snail-mail response, along the lines of
John and I will be there with bells on to see you and Suzie get hitched. Save a cold one for me!
… or words to that effect.
Post # 10
I think depending on how well you know this couple you could probably even phone them up and let them know you’ll be there.
If your having an informal wedding there’s no need for formal language -it sounds like their day is going to be alot of fun, and you can leave your etiquett book at home (but bring bring your normal manners of course).
If its someone you don’t feel comfortable calling I love jo.lee’s response -its perfect!
I sent out fairly casual RSVP’s (although I invited people to phone, or email their RSVP) and I am loving all the voice mails/phone calls I am getting about how much people are looking forward to it! PLUS, its giving me an opportunity to talk to people about what to expect, traveling and the like.
Post # 11
I would send a cute card with a “thank you for inviting us, we’d love to attend” type message written inside. If there’s no contact address on the invite, then send directly to the couple (presuming you have their address).
Most likely, they simply forgot to put RSVP details on. It’s easily done (when you don’t hang out on a wedding forum like us).
BTW Are you guys used to seeing an RSVP date on invites? I’ve never seen that before – just a contact name and address for RSVPing to…
Post # 12
Given how informal the invitation is, I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re just doing a buffet or cake and punch, and therefore don’t really care exactly how many people are coming.
an email sounds like a nice and easy way to respond that’s equally casual, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Post # 13
You should respond with same amount of formality as the invitation itself.
So… something like:
We can’t wait to party with you when you get hitched on July 16th. Thanks for the invite, Jim & Ali Guest
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
I would definitely send a hard copy – texts can be easily deleted, and then forgotten! Maybe just a card or something that says “Jack and I received your invitation, and can’t wait to attend your wedding!” Or something equally as informal. Plus, it’s always nice to receive snail mail 🙂
Post # 15
Out of all the weddings I have been invited to only one had an RSVP card, and that was the most recent one. Here in Australia tradionally we always replied to RSVPS with a small acceptance card. I think RSVP Cards as well as things like Save the Dates are only becoming more common here because of the blending of cultures through the Internet.
Post # 16
One thing I’d check is to make sure it’s not just a save-the-date. I’ve heard of STDs that don’t say “save the date” or “formal invitation to follow” and people think it’s an invitation, while it’s actually not. Just based on the informality and the lack of mention of RSVPing, I would wonder about that. Otherwise, I’d send a note or email saying you’re excited to attend and you’ll see them there.