How Do I say No?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think if you explain to her that you are going to try singing, and really suck up to her abilities (you are just so amazing…I don’t think I could compete with you etc.) she might let it go?

Post # 4
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2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What would you prefer as a form of entertainment for your wedding? If you want to have a DJ, it’s as simple as explaining that while you appreciate her offer, you want a different form of entertainment. That way, she won’t have an upset ego if you choose someone else on a different level of entertaining.

That said, it’s really rude of her to assume you’re going to hire her. 

Post # 5
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3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@MademoiselleL:  This is better advice then what I was going to suggest.

Confide in her your surprise and suck up to her, saying that you don’t want people to compare her amazing singing to your inexperienced singing.

Also try throwing in that you don’t want her to have to work during the reception, to just enjoy it and be able to drink without worrying about having to sing later etc. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@waddle:  No! DON’T be embarressed. This is a beautiful, meaningful thing that you want to do and if you don’t I think you’ll regret it. I’m sure your sister in law will be supporitive of you. And if she isn’t, then who needs her!

Post # 8
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2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@waddle:  I know exactly what you mean. I’m a good singer, I’ve studied voice for years and I’d say that I’m fairly accomplished, but I dread the thought of singing for people I know. Or anyone I can actually see for that matter. I hate being able to view people’s reactions. I want to sing for the day of, but I just get so embarrassed at the thought. Perhaps have her sing a simple song early in the ceremony, so that people won’t have it on their minds as your song plays during the reception? Or have her sing before the ceremony before the processional as people are finding their seats as background music.

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