(Closed) How do I say “no chilldren” so that no one is offended

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am using “no accommodations for children” I realize it sounds a bit harsh but I really want to get my point across. I dont care if people are upset, its my wedding

Post # 6
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

It’s not the wording that offends people so I wouldn’t worry too much.  Especially since you want to get your point across I’d make it clear that it’s adults only on the rsvp card.

Post # 8
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well, you could say “We regret to inform you that we are allergic to children, so please don’t bring them to the wedding.” LOL. Just kidding! ๐Ÿ˜‰

In all honesty, I think you should just put “adult reception only”  or “Adult Ceremony and Reception,” on your invitations, and make sure the response cards say “We have reserved 2 seats in your honor,” basically all the things you can do to drive the point home that it’s an ADULT event.

Also, do you have a wedding website for your guests to visit to get wedding details and traveling accomodations? If so, you could use the site to also explain that it is a “formal adult event…we’re sorry, but there are no accomodations for children.”

Another thing you can do – which we are doing- is to have your wedding coordinator or whomever is in charge at the reception facility assigned to stop people who show up with children at the door, and explain to them that it is an adult event, and that there are no accomodations for children. Your coordinator should be polite but firm, and explain that a contract exists between the facility and you, and that if they allowed children into an adult event where alcohol is served, they could be sued.  

If you do a search here, you will see that the “no children” thing is a pretty big topic here on WB- you might get some great advice from prior posts from brides in similar situations as yourself.

Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we’re not having a “wedding” (running away in the morning) and we’re having a BBQ dinner that evening to announce that we got married and there will only be about 20ish ppl… there is my older brother who has 2 younger childer (8 and 5), my cousin who has one 4yr and my sister inlaw who has 3 children (12, 6 and 8months)… even though it’s not a big formal thing i still didn’t really want to worry about children running around or whether or not they are entertained.. plus when my brother came to our engagement they left pretty early because they had to get the kids to bed, so i dont want them leaving early and i would like them to be able to have a good time themselves.

I sent a text message to my cousin and my brother and asked if there would be any problem if their kids could get babysat that evening and explained that i would like them to be able to relax and have a night without the kids.
both were completely fine with it.

that way you don’t have to put anything like that on the invite.

Plus my stepchildren will be heading back to their mum after the ceremony (over an hours drive away) because they have school the next day so it’s not like the other kids would have anyone to play with anyway.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

LOL @ allergic to children

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