Post # 1
I’m in a tough place and I really need some advice. A little background first. I moved 90 miles to be with FI, before I moved I looked for a job and had several interviews. One of the places that brought me back for 2 interviews was a CPA (I’m an accountant by the way, not a CPA) but he ended up hiring someone with more experience. At that time I would’ve been thrilled to accept a position with his firm. I ended up moving without a job and found my current job after being here a month. I really like my job, the environment is very laid back and I feel a sense of loyalty to my current employer because he gave me a chance when no one else would. I was part time up until 6 months ago and while I was part time I did taxes for the CPA mentioned above when I wasn’t at my current work. The CPA has since fired the person he hired instead of me and from my work during tax time, he realized that I’m a good worker and I think he regrets not hiring me. Now, I’m full time, FI is a driver for UPS and has to work long hours most of the time and we have 3 children ages 9, 10 and 11. The CPA has been relentlessly pursuing me to come work for him full time. I feel bad because way back when I interviewed with him I wouldn’t have thought twice about going to work for him but now it doesn’t work with my life. He would expect me to work 60 hours a week during tax time and I just can’t imagine leaving the kids alone for 4 hours. So if you read this far, how do I tell the CPA thanks but no thanks without sounding like a bitch?
Post # 3
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How have you rejected him the other times he asked you to work for him? I think just a firm “I appreciate the offer, but I’m happy with the position I have right now and am not planning to leave. Good luck in your search.” something like that should work.. and just keep repeating the same thing each time he calls.
Post # 4
It’s pretty simple. Just tell him you are happy with your current job and don’t want to work that many hours. If he won’t leave you alone then stop taking his calls.
Post # 5
You could say something like: I’m not interested in exploring other opportunities at this time. I am happy in my current position.
Post # 6
I met with him before Christmas and told him at that time I was happy where I was and he ended the meeting with “think about it over the holidays.” He has now called me twice this week and emailed me as well. He’s very nice and I think he feels like he made a bad choice not hiring me in the first place. Another thing, this is a very small town and he’s very well known and I don’t want to burn any bridges.
Post # 7
Thank you so much for thinking of me for this position. I have thought about it, but I am happy with my current job and I am not looking for a change right now. Ill be sure to let you know in the future if I am looking for a new job
Thats it. Be nice, dont burn your bridges because you never know when you might need him.
Post # 8
I just want to add that I think youre making the right decision for your family. I am currently a tax accountant working on my CPA certification and I am MISERABLE. This will be my 7th busy season… and it sucks! You spend so much time at the office.. chained to your chair and calculator!!! Its good money, and it works as a career for a lot of people… but after nearly four years… it isnt working for me!!!
Post # 9
I think you need to tell him that you are extremely grateful for the part-time work he was willing to give to you when you were part-time at your current job and that you enjoyed working with him very much. However, because you are now working full-time at a job that you really love, you just are not in a position to consider making a move at this time. However, express to him that, if circumstances should change in the future, you would be honored to be considered at that time for any available openings he may have.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the great advice! This is silly but I feel bad for him.
@MLDoddie: This is part of the reason for my decision. Maybe if the kids were older it would work better but I can’t imagine basically not seeing my kids for 4 months of the year! I enjoy the work but the hours would kill me.