- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
A bit of background…We’re having a small wedding (~30people) as we live overseas from our home country and only a few family members can come over. I am having one bridesmaid (my sister who lives in the UK), and she is doing everything she can do to help from the other side of the world but that’s obviously a bit limited.
I have another great friend here in NZ who I would consider my best friend in NZ, and her husband is our Best Man, as my Fiance has no family or friends coming over for the wedding at all. We asked my friend to be the wedding MC as she’s great at things like that and we wanted her involved in the wedding. She was so honoured to be asked and jumped at saying yes.
However she then offered to plan the hen night/bachelorette, which I said yes to, and today she offered to come to my hair and make up trial with me tomorrow, which is a 5 hour round trip and then 2 hours sat in a salon. I told her I’d love her to come but she might be bored etc…. anyway she’s insisted (which I’m really happy about)… She’s also offered to sort out our wedding music/create itunes lists etc
BUT… now I feel awful that she’s not bridesmaid but she’s doing all the Bridesmaid-y jobs. I know she really WANTS to do these things but I still feel bad… We’re putting both her and her husband up on the wedding night in a 5* villa where my family and my Fiance and me are staying as a thankyou gift, but I still feel bad about her not being bridesmaid. And there’s no way she could be bridesmaid now, so that’s not an option…
Is the villa and a small gift enough of a thank you for her going above and beyond?
What would you do?