Post # 1
My husband and I are temporarily separated (not legally, just voluntarily but still together). I found out very recently that he had slept with a woman twice. He has stopped seeing her as of a week ago. I can find it in my heart to forgive him (we’ve been together a total of 11yrs), but how am I supposed to EVER sleep in that bed? I don’t think I can get past that. What to do? Help! !
Post # 2
Sleep on the couch? Stay with a friend? Get a hotel room? Move out? Get a divorce?
In all seriousness go see a therapist. It should help some.
Post # 3
Get a new bed? Sleep in a hotel room or at a friend’s for now?
Post # 4
If you’ve made up your mind to stay and work on the relationship, then the current bed should go ASAP and replaced if financially possible. Like your hubby needs to have the current bed out of the house by the time you get home from work tomororw, and the two of you should have a Monday night “date” at the mattress store to get a new bed of your choosing. If the bed can’t be delivered until the weekend, then you should get to stay at a nearby luxury hotel drinking champagne until it’s installed and ready in your bedroom.
Hang in there during this difficult time. Don’t be afraid to ask your PCP for a referral to a good talk therapist if you need one.
Post # 5
I am sorry to hear that, he should replace that bed and you really need to visit a therapist
Post # 6
ITA, your husband needs to replace the bed & therapy is in order.
Post # 7
…I don’t think the OP has a problem with the bed itself (unless I’m totally reading into it wrong). I took the post to mean she didn’t know how she was going to sleep in the bed, with her husband, and everything that a marital bed is supposed to represent after he cheated.
Post # 8
I’d have a problem with the actual physical bed itself if it were me.
Post # 9
sassy411: Sure, but she never actually said “he had sex with a woman in our bed” which is why I came to the conclusion I did.
If that is the case, I’d have a bon fire and invite the neighbors.