- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Did any of you who are living together with your SOs or FIs have trouble broaching the subject with your family? My FI is not receiving as much income right now, and he had to give up his apartment. I wouldn’t have chosen for us to live together, but I let him move in with me because, well, I didn’t want him to have to move in with his parents or become homeless. It was a fast decision; I felt like it was the only option, and we’d practically been living together, anyway; and we’d been engaged for several months– so we moved a bunch of his things into storage and the rest into my apartment in just a day or two. We’re both students right now, and neither of us has a lot of money, so it does make sense financially. I pay the rent and bills, and he buys groceries and anything else we need. And I don’t feel like it’s really anyone’s business but ours.
Unfortunately, my mom is my apartment co-signer, and she gives me money to help me pay bills. Also unfortunately, my mom is very old-fashioned, and I haven’t told her; she doesn’t live in the same town, and she hasn’t visited me yet. But she plans to. I feel like I need to ask her for permission, since she’s the co-signer, and I’m embarrassed to talk to her about this, especially since she’s not completely excited about me and my FI getting married in the first place. Ugh. What can I do? How do I bring this up to her? She has really conservative feelings, and I don’t really want my mom to think of me as a “slut.” And on a pragmatic note, I’m afraid she’ll stop supporting me financially, or worse, as a co-signer, demand that he not live with me. Help?