Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids has a sister who bakes cakes. Don’t get me wrong, they are beautiful and look professional, but they taste awful! Anyways, her sister made me a cake for my birthday party, and ever since, my bridesmaid has been telling me how her sister really wants to make my cake for me and how she told her sister to practice making plumeria flowers because she knows thats what kind of decoration I want. How do I tell my friend no without hurting her or her sister’s feelings? I want a yummy tasting cake, not just one that looks good. Ladies, how would you let your friend down nicely? Or would you tell some sort of little lie to get out of it?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t come right out and say that the cakes taste awful but I would say that you appreciate the fact she wants to make the cake, but you are going with a bakery. The bakery has the flavor that you are looking for.
I know that I am going to have to go through the samething with my FMIL when BF & I get engaged. Her best friend makes cakes and has her bake something for all birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Yes, she makes good cake, but they are just a little sub-par to a bakery. I think if my FMIL pushes this cake thing, then I will just tell her to make a cake for his bachelor party or something like that.
Maybe you can do that too? Most guys don’t care about cake. Or you can do it with your bachelorette party, have a few drinks beforehand, maybe it will taste better that way LOL?
Post # 4
That’s a hard one. I would just tell her that you and your FI have a bakery in mind, and that you like her sister’s work but you’ve already settled on X.
Post # 5
Say that you already have the cake taken care of. No further explanation necessary.
Post # 6
I agree with ember78, tell her that you signed a contract/would lose your deposit.
Post # 7
I agree….just say that you found a baker already. OR if her sister is coming to the wedding as well, just say you want her sister to enjoy the wedding and not stress about the cake.
Post # 8
Yeah, I wouldn’t straight up say that you don’t like her sister’s cake. I’d just say that that you appreciate the offer, but you already have a baker.
Post # 9
I would say that my fiance has this favourite bakery that makes his most favourite cake ever and he really wants to get the cake from this bakery. But, maybe she can make the cake for your shower?
Post # 10
You know… If her sister is making cakes professionally, I think that being honest is the way to go. What favor are you doing by sugar coating or dancing around the issue. If she is making money off this, then she should be aware of the taste issue. You don’t have to be mean about it, but just say that the flavor of the cake isn’ up to par with whoever else you go with.
Post # 11
Um to save a possible fight between friends. I def wouldn’t tell her that her sisters cakes taste bad. I would just say that its already been taken care of.