Post # 1
How do I tell people I’m engaged?
So! I know that my boyfriend is going to ask me to marry him sometime soon (in the next three weeks or so) And I’m so excited! The tricky thing I have going on right now is how do I tell people once it happens? Of course I’m going to tell my parents and grandparents by phone (they live a fair distance away or I’d do it in person) And I’ll tell my two best friends by phone of course. But other then them, I have a ton of friends I was really close too in college and since I graduated (about 6 months ago) we have fallen out of touch.
So my question is, is it acceptable to just post it on facebook and let them find it themselves? Should I text them individually first to let them know before they see the post? A phone call to each of them would probably be awkward for all of them considering I don’t think I’ve ever talked on the phone with them before. They’d probably see the caller id and think I was dying! Lol!
How did you tell friends that had become somewhat distance? Any opinions are awesome!
Post # 3
I sent a group text to certain family and friends with a pic attached of us right after he popped the question!
Post # 4
I called my parents, grandparents, family, and close friends. Fiance phoned his family and close friends. Then we put it on Facebook. I would never want our family or close friends to find out on Facebook, but it’s not realistic to call every single person you know, either.
IMO, calling people you’re now distant with/don’t really talk to anymore (or have never even spoken to on the phone) seems a bit weird, like you’re just looking for congratulations or something. If they see it on Facebook, and want to congratulate you, they’ll reach out.
Post # 5
We told immediate family and grandparents over the phone or in person, as well as close friends, then just put it on facebook. If you do want something more personal for some friends, just a text should be fine – my fiance got a text from his best friend when he proposed to his girlfriend, and we couldn’t have been happier. We certainly don’t mind finding out via text or facebook that someone is engaged.
Post # 6
I told immediate and close family/friends in person or email, and then just set Facebook status.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I texted my current group of good friends, and also my best friends from college and from HS. Everyone else found out via ye ol FB
Post # 8
I called each of my close family and friends by phone to tell them before I changed my status on Facebook for all my less-close friends to see.
Post # 9
We called the immediate family and those friends that we consider family. We texted another group and then put it on Facebook for everyone else.
The one thing I would caution is make sure to get in touch with all the VIP’s before posting anything online.
Post # 10
Thanks so much for all the responses and insight! It’s a big help!
Post # 11
I think I finally posted it on FB about 3 weeks after we started telling people. We called the critical people (parents, sibling, grandma, first cousins, and closest friends, i.e. the people who wound up being in our bridal party) immediately, then we took more time to tell people ourselves before blasting the news electronically.
Post # 12
I’m pretty sure we only called my mom the night of…FI and I were vacationing with his mom so she already knew…then we posted on FB.
Post # 13
@watergirl4455: I think that it’s fine for the bulk of people to learn via Facebook. If you’re not regularly in touch with people, it’s not realistic to expect that you’d call them.
Post # 14
Personally I would let people that you care about know individually. Here’s what I did:
Family and closest friends: phone call
Other friends I care about but am not in as close touch with (but who I invited to the wedding): individual emails
Everyone else: facebook
I just think it’s nice to let people know in a personal communication of some form… it makes people feel special!
Post # 15
I asked this question a while ago and got some pretty good advice. I decided to send out a group email to certain friends with an overall “Life Updates from the Big O” theme and include at the very end that I’m engaged with a little story about us/how it happened. Possibly throw in some ring porn. This should not be offensive because it shows you took the time to single out certain folks. Feel free to send and address the emails individually instead of a group message (the group thing works for me because these are all sorority people so they all know me in the same way for the same reason and are used to being referred to in/as a group). Also, anyone to whom you haven’t spoken in 6+ months would be unreasonable to expect an individualized phone call for all your news.
Post # 16
I’ve been thinking about this for myself as well. I’ll be getting engaged around Christmas, and I will be overseas with my SO and his family. I figure I will Skype my parents, and worse case scenario, a FB message and/or email. I will send a FB message to my three best friends (which is how we keep in constant contact now anyway), and an FB message to my cousin (who’s like a best friend to me). I’ll let my cousin and parents spread the news via phone. Then I’ll post it on Facebook after a couple days.
I wouldn’t fret too much. Individual contact with people you are close to and speak with often, and Facebook for everyone else.