- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
FIs bestfriend’s FI, is a nice enough girl … but I am kind of coming to wits end with her input into FI and my life. She has been with FIs bestfriend for 7 or 8 years now, and live together etc.
During the Spring, she had already gotten engaged, and I was waiting for FI to propose, yes FI and I have been together for less time than they have been, but we are also in our mid-late twenties, and by no means are not capable of considering the enormity of deciding to spend our lives together. But anywho, she kept going on and on to me in the Spring how I shouldn’t rush FI, and that she couldn’t imagine having gotten engaged to her FI after only 3 years, to which I replied, that after 3 years with her FI she was only 18, I also couldn’t imagine getting engaged at 18 … (good thing I’m 25).
Then she goes on about how FI and I don’t live together, and she thinks we should because its necessary to do a “trial” to see if you’re compatible (yes, I can see the pros of living together before marriage, but it is not what I want to do, and honestly if I thought I needed to do a trial, I wouldn’t be ready to marry FI).
And during the summer puts in input on how we ought to do our reception, and how large our bridal party should be (she is having 7 BMs … I would be fine with just 1, but I am letting FI decide how many GMs he wants) etc etc.
Most recently she is bugging about our invitations, they got a “really good deal” on theirs, but they are DIY (and definitely look cheap) … which I just don’t have the patience to do … but she keeps telling everyone that it is such a waste to pay for invitations, when you can just buy nice paper and print them yourselves etc etc. Again, I understand that is what people really want to do … not I, I want traditional invitations and I don’t want to do them myself.
She talks about how I should consider how much money rah rah rah, I just want to shake her and be like look … yes, you got a fantastic price on your invitations … good for you. My wedding dress and photography are both free and are costing us $0, so quite frankly, if I want to spend $300 on invitations, I’m still coming out further ahead than you with savings.
And, just because you and your FI have been together longer does not mean that you guys are the perfect couple (and that everything should do as you do)! Cause lets not forget the phone call you made to my FI in tears because you were worried that your FI would cheat on you at his bachelor party, and you’d have to call off the wedding. And oh, by the way my FI, IS going to have a good time on his bachelor party … just because you want to control what your FI is doing … you can’t do the same to mine.
Done my rant.