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I seriously would not say anything. How much he spent on a wedding day gift should have very little relation to how much he will spend on a Christmas/Birthday present. If it becomes a pattern, address it in the future.
It's a gift. Enjoy it. You'll hurt his feelings if you say something about the cost. He wanted to get it for you, so let him be happy. Wear it with pride! 
I say embrace how awesome that bracelet is, wear the heck out of it and plan on passing it down someday. Next time you give a hint about a present make it something totally different like a book to show him that it is really the thought and not neccasarily how much it is.
I would enjoy it because I am sure that he really wanted you to have it! (BTW-I would feel "guilty" about it too). I think you can choose to tell him how you feel about putting money towards a vacation at another time. He is proud to have you as his bride, and he obviously wanted you and everyone else to know it!!!-Don't take that away from him. :)
My mom always did this. My father would get her expensive stuff and she would tell him to take it back.
If you can't accept the gift without feeling sick to your stomach, say something. Communication is the best. If you don't say something now, he's always going to think he has to blow thousands of dollars on one object.
My mom always said she'd rather have a week vacation to somewhere fun and she really didn't care for the "trinkets" so after a while he got it and they start going on week vacations twice a year. Once by themselves, and the other time with us as a family. The memories, to her, are worth far more than a pair of earrings or bracelet.
Dont say anything. He wanted to do something nice for you. Enjoy it. Now that you are married you can discuss future finacial decisions together including how much to spend on gifts.
I wouldn't say anything (besides thank you x10000), he probably feels amazing to have been able to get you something you'd love and it may take the wind out of his sails a little.
I think the people suggesting not to say anything probably have it right. On the otherhand I know myself - if I was in this situation I would have to say something (just my personality).
I would probably tell him how much I love the bracelet and how much it means to me BUT that I feel guilty about how much money he spent on it. I would explain that in the future I would rather we spend that amount of money on things we can enjoy together, like a vacation. I don't think this would hurt his feelings, but instead make him realize that time spent with him is more valuable than anything he could buy.
I would say nothing and if he keeps doing something like this in the future make a deal with each other that presents will be experiences you share together or put a dollar amt on it (I know its not romatic).
For xmas my SO only spend 50 and then we go shopping for a needy family and their needs list (through an organized charity). You could try to organize group presents like that in the future as well.
He did not mind spending this to present his wife with a gift that he knew she wanted. It's actually very sweet. I totally know what what you are thinking (which is more being more practical), but I think saying something will hurt his feelings.
Thanks for the advice, I think I just need to keep my mouth shut this time. He really was supper happy to give it to me and I do love it, I just could have loved it all the same in sterling silver and he could have used the $$ for something else too! I am glad I put this out there because I tend to speak my mind freely without thinking of the outcome. I just never should have looked at how much it cost.
A lot of great ideas came out for future though like wishing for things of little value and shopping for a family at Christmas instead of each other. We are also big experience gifters and i am sure that will continue.
Maybe next time a gift opportunity comes along (birthday, Christmas, etc.) you could tell him you'd like to put the money that would be spend on a gift towards a trip/experience/etc. instead this year.
And I agree with PPs - your husband is so sweet to buy you such a bracelet, and it's super cute how excited he was to "pick it out" even though you showed him. Appreciate the sentiment, and the beauty of gold!
I agree with PPs about enjoying the gift and not saying anything. I would feel guilty as well. Zeb and I have a spending cap on holidays that we set in advance according to our financial situation. You may want to try speaking to him before gift giving if you think this will be a trend.
Congrats on the bracelet! It sounds beautiful.
My opinion is to keep it if you plan on wearing it, but not if you keep it in a drawer. I still remember how disappointed i was when hubby (just a b/f at the time) convinced me to return a (slightly) expensive watch I got him for his birthday present the first year we were together. It wasn't entirely his taste at the time but I think he now wishes he kept it since he can appreciate the style now. I spent so much time and emotion on picking what I thought was the perfect one to surprise him with. Instead, he used the $ to get a plane ticket for him to meet my folks- which was well worth it but probably going to happen anyway. He totally picked out his wedding ring in advance so I think it would have been cool that I could see something he uses regularlly (the watch) that I picked out for him by myself.
I told DH to NEVER tell me how much my engagement ring cost. I don't want to either feel sick to my stomach everytime I look at it or think it's too cheapy. I like to imagine he got a great deal for a really expensive ring. Mystery can be a beautiful thing. :)
@mszebra:Spending cap is a great idea for the future. I think I'll talk to DH about doing that for Christmas.
I get that way too. I actually made him return my last birthday present. It was a really pretty necklace, but almost 800 bucks... I already got an engagement and wedding ring this year, so I felt terrible that such a huge chunk of our annual income had gone to jewelery for me this year.
I agree with posters that have talked about discussing a cap. We've set one for Christmas.
I like the idea that other people have suggested which is to discuss how much to spend on things in the future when it is nearing gift giving time, but to let this one go. I'm sure he thought that he was really upgrading the gift that you wanted and that you'd love it so I think you risk really hurting his feelings on this one. I think it might be best to discuss it when it's more abstract, like a gift in the future...rather than a discussion that is tied to a gift that he's probably quite proud of.
@slicey19: Be honest: is the problem really that you aren't comfortable with wearing something so expensive or is the problem that you really wanted silver and he didn't oblige?
In the second case, you have to either convey to your guy that from here on out, that when you give gift ideas, you really mean that specific thing and not something similar to it. It's not as romantic, but some people need to be direct when it comes to gifts because they're unhappy otherwise.
In the first case, you need to change your midset. For one, instead of making the bracelet into a reminder of some kind of rip-off (b/c it looks like silver when it's white gold--and btw I have white gold jewelry and it looks different from silver to me--more creamy, more complex, especially after a while), you need to make the bracelet into a reminder of your fiance's pride, his happiness, his delight in his own taste and his love for you.
And by the way--enjoying and wearing expensive jewelry doesn't make you less sensible or less modest and it doesn't make you materialistic.
My mum always says, "When someone gives you a gift, you take it." She doesn't mean this in a brash or greedy way. What she means is that when someone gives you a gift, they have thought it through and decided that (a) that's what they want you to have, and (b) they can swing it financially. So you need to accept that sentiment graciously and gratefully.
He wanted you to have the bracelet and he's probably very proud of himself for picking it out for you - what a great guy!
Enjoy your gift and in the future you can be more specific about the gift budget.
I would actually say something. FH has a history of buying me the most hideous unwearable jewelry. He once spent 300 dollars on a giant princess crown necklace there where all these crystal things and hello...it was a crown (not MY style). It also looked like something you could pick up at walmart for $7.99 so when I found out the price I put my foot down. I asked him to return it, not because I was ungrateful but because I would never feel comfortable wearing it and therefore it would be a waste of money. I told him its the thought more than the item and if we returned the necklace I would still be appreciative of the gift. In my situation it worked. FH confessed that he was talked into buying it by the sales lady and really didn't even like it himself.
I totally understand where you are coming from. I was sick to my stomach when DH bought me an expensive flashy designer handbag that totally wasn't my style the 1st year we were dating. I have no idea what posessed him to pick out such a huge, gaudy bag and spend so much! on it, especially since it's obvious that something like that was not my style at all, I am brooks brothers conservative. I knew he could barely afford it so I was REALLY tempted to say something so he could just get his $ back, but I decided not to and I've never looked back.
I think you shouldn't say anything and if it helps, focus on the positives. At least you like the style of the bracelet, since you picked it out (albeit in silver). It sounds like a style of bracelet you could wear with anything, sweats, a suit, even to the beach. And I would really try to focus on what the bracelet represents instead of how expensive it was. YOur DH was so excited to marry you that he went out on a limb adn bought you something really nice to symbolize the union, something he knew you wanted.
I think that since you asked for a bracelet from tiffany u cant really blame him for getting you one. Granted he bought the wrong one which was way more expensive, but guys dont always pay attention to the details and he thought he was giving you what you asked for. I wouldnt say a word about it.
I would just take it and enjoy it. If you say anything it will kill his ability to buy you presents in the future. I have a hard enough time getting my FI to take me out to dinner much less buy me presents. The last present I got was a add on for his bar where I could hook liquor bottle to it and squirt it in a glass, like the do in a real bar LOL. So I would take a beautiful bracelet!
@JennyW1 It's the cost that makes me uncomfortable. I think you hit the nail on the head with sensible. I'm usually a sensible person. The fact that it is not exactly what I had imagined is not an issue. Really I had simply wished for a bracelet with my new monogram as I tend to wear a bracelet as part of my every day jewelry.
The sensible side of me sees other uses for the $. It's just more than I would spend on such a bracelet if I had picked it out myself. Also, now that we are combining finances, the business side of me sees this as unreasonable spending if that makes sense.
That being said, I think this thread has really helped me to be appriciative of gifts even when they are not what I would have chosen to spend my money on. I am wearing the bracelet now and figure I may as well continue to wear it and appriciate the effort he put into the purchase becasue I really do love it.
@slicey19: Ah. Well, then if you're like most couples and you have both separate accounts and a joint account, then I think you just need to come to terms that whatever he purchases out of his account is his perogative (so long as you're not struggling financially)--whether it's new fly-fishing equipment or a bracelet for you. Spending your own discretionary income on someone you love is part of the fun!
And segregating your funds like that will probably help you psychologically to put away the idea of "oh, but that's $200 that we could have put towards a new couch"--with a joint account, you'd already have designated funds for that kind of thing. My FI and I have discussed having THREE joint accounts--one for day-to-day life's needs (groceries, car repair, etc.), one for fun things we don't *need* (new couch, vacations), and a third for savings.
But I think it's good if you teach him to be sensible and if he teaches you how to enjoy yourself :)
I don't think there is any way you can tell him he spent too much without sounding ungrateful. Love it and enjoy it. And in a few months, talk about setting a spending limit for gifts for budgetary purposes.
@slicey19: Glad you are able to enjoy the gift! Hopefully you get many more great presents in your marriage!
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My husband bought me an amazing Tiffany's bracelet for a wedding present with my new monogram. I had wished for a bracelet with my new monogram and showed him the Tiffany's sterling silver heart toggle bracelet awhile back. Well, he bought the white gold version with a diamond heart charm and a silver engraved heart to the tune of 5x more expensive than the silver bracelet. I was expecting the silver, I would have been completely happy with the silver. I had no intention of looking at how much my bracelet cost but was on the website looking at a link a friend sent of her new necklace and got curious. Now I feel really guilty.
Truthfully, if I had known he was going to spend so much, I would have asked him to put it toward something different like a vacation or something more unique in the jewelry field. I don't need or want such an expensive bracelet and now I feel completely guilty for looking at the price and for owning it.
How do I explain to him that, in the future, I would rather he spend less money on such a present without coming across ungrateful? Truth be told, the bracelet looks like it's sterling and he could only get the engraved charm in sterling so I don't see the point of having such an expensive bracelet that looks "cheap". I really feel sick about this, he spent almost as much as he did on my engagement ring setting which is platinum! He is so proud of himself for picking it out and for picking the white gold specifically...