Post # 1
SO has started carpooling to work with the new employee in his company, problem, it’s a woman he spends all day training, and now they spend an hour together every day outside of work during the commute to and from. I trust him, I don’t trust this older woman. Who he won’t introduce me to, and I don’t even know her name. I told him when he brought up that she asked him to carpool, i wasn’t comfortable with it. Now every morning this week she’s at my house before I’m even out of bed to catch a ride or pick up my SO. I hate this, I don’t know if I should shut up and get over myself or put my foot down?
Post # 3
Why won’t he introduce her to you or tell you her name? That’s the only weird thing. Otherwise, who the hell cares? He’s saving some gas.
Post # 4
What caused them to suddenly start carpooling? Does your SO have a car? Why won’t he introduce you to her? That’s a little odd to me. He knows you are uncomfortable with it…what did he say when you talked about it? I mean, I get saving gas, but why didn’t he ever carpool with anyone before this lady?
Post # 5
@HopingtobeeMrsV: I think you should wake up early enough to see this chick because chances are you are worrying over nothing. If you are serious about having this conversation, asking him to not carpool, you got yourself a problem. THat being you are insecure and jealous. And that does not make for a healthy relationship.
Post # 6
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I think that this is probably saving you money and you shouldn’t be so threatened. It’s not unreasonable for you to want to know more about her or meet her though. can you elaborate on that? Have you directly asked him to introduce you because you’re uncomfortable with it?
Post # 7
excuse me? no introduction and refusal to tell name?
I would smell a rat too.
Post # 8
Why not just ask him what her name is? Then ask him to introduce you.
Post # 9
@peachacid: @Torrid: he knows I don’t like it one bit! He has a car with 30 mpg, mine is 35mpg, he said we’re saving money, but honestly he’d save more money if he just stopped eating out for lunch everyday! I told him no when he brought it up the first time, and that I’d think about it if I met her first. None of that happened and he just started carpooling this week anyway.
Post # 10
@HopingtobeeMrsV: I think you should play nice and try to meet her first. He probably balked because you made him feel like he had to ask permission and guys normally don’t like that. There’s really no reason to get yourself worked up based on what you’ve posted.
Invite her (and her SO?) over for dinner one night. Or just get up a little early and walk out to the car when she comes to pick him and up and introduce yourself.
ETA: Also, unless there’s more to the story, I don’t think it’s fair to say he refuses to introduce you to her.
Post # 11
I would wake up early enough to at least walk him out, kiss him good bye, and wave to her. There’s no reason you can’t at least know her name. That’s fishy to me.
Post # 12
Weird he won’t even tell you his name. I can get why he might not think it’s necessary for you to meet her – seems kind of like a let me meet your kid’s friends before they go out together type of thing, and would be a bit odd to just be taking you out to the car to meet her.
I’m sure it’s not a big deal, but the bigger deal is that you told him you weren’t comfortable, and rather than working through a solution to it together, he just went ahead and did it without even telling you.