Post # 1
So my SO hasn’t proposed yet, but we did go look at rings the other day which made me super happy! 🙂 Anyway, the only problem is the ring he liked the most, is the one I liked the least…. Ok, I’ll be honest I hate it. It’s not my style at all. To me it looked old fashioned and not in a good way. I like antique rings, that have detail and character. The one he liked had a small center stone that had side stones down the side that were almost the same size as the center stone itself. I believe the center stone should be bigger than the sidestones significantly or stand out in some way. And the gold band kinda came up on the sidestones which I didn’t like at all. And it was a diamond ring, which I don’t even want. I want moissanite and he knows this, but he’s set on buying me a diamond one I guess. I wouldn’t even mind if it were diamond if it were a look I really liked, but this look isn’t me at all.
The sides looked like this
And then it had rose gold around the center stone and it sort of looked like it was floating. To be honest that was the only part about it I liked, the rose gold. Ugh, I really don’t want to come off as sounding ungrateful or bratty, but I plan to wear whatever he gives me for the rest of my life. I at least want to like it.
Post # 3
Well… why not just tell him? It’s not like he already bought it. Just say ” Hey what one ring with the x details I didn’t like that much. But the one that had the X I really liked a lot!” Easy peasy.
Post # 4
@Tarheelgurl: Did you let him know when you were looking at it that you didn’t like it?
Hopefully he was listening and even though he liked it the most, he’ll listen a bit to what you would like.
If a ring is not your style, it’s not your style I don’t think that it’s “bratty” to want to like the ring you are going to wear for the rest of your life.
Post # 5
Did you say anything when you were looking at it? If he brought you to look at rings, he must value your input. Just gently remind him that the one particular one you saw that day wasn’t your style.
Post # 6
@mixtapehearts: I agree. He hasn’t bought it yet, and clearly he’s not trying to surprise you, so just be honest and tell him it’s not your style. Would he honestly want to buy you a ring he knows you don’t like?
Post # 7
If he hasn’t bought it, just be honest!
Post # 8
The whole point of shopping is to figure out what you like and don’t like, so speak up!
Post # 9
I think you need to just be upfront and honest with him and when you’re ring shopping let him know what you do and dont like about the rings you see. If you really dont like something, bring it up then. Good luck.
Post # 10
Thanks fellow bees. When we were looking, I said it was nice, but I really wanted something with more of an antique feel and/or that had a halo and some detail to it. He said he wanted to get me something simple though and halos and antique rings aren’t simple looking, ugh! While we were in the store, I didn’t want to just be like “I hate it” though. I mean the ring is ok looking to me, but it’s not me. I think I’ll talk to him about it tonight before we go out with his family for dinner.
Post # 11
Just tell him, it’s ok to have a preference about the ring. If I’d left my husband to be 100% in charge he would have picked something along the lines of a Super Bowl ring!
Post # 12
@Tarheelgurl: Good idea. He hasn’t bought it yet so now that you’re out of the store you can be honest. But you should be honest in he stores too. I’ve worked tons of retail and frankly dont really have much personally vested in any particular item so it doesnt hurt their feelings if you don’t like it.
Post # 13
I would just be honest and tell him I didnt like it.
Tell him what you dont like about it and see if you can move on from there. I dont see the problem with being honest and getting the ring you love and want to wear forever!
Post # 14
@Bostongrl25: BINGO! why go shopping together if you aren’t going to give input on what you do/don’t like? Just say you weren’t a fan and would prefer moissy, x, whatever!
Post # 15
i would be super honest: that ring is just not you, it’s someone else.
Post # 16
Shopping together is your chance to give feedback on what you want, so be as honest as possible. Do some prior research and find some styles you like that are in his budget, so he can see you aren’t just shooting everything down.