TMI obviously, lol.
FI generally has good hygiene practices but one thing really bugs me - he doesn't wash his butt in the shower! He soaps up every other part of himself, except that one. I don't get it. I asked why and his reasoning is "Water runs down there, it's enough!"
Except it's not. I mean, think of what comes out of there! Wiping with toilet paper simply isn't enough!
Sometimes there's a slight......odor......from that area, not always but enough to make me want to say something. But how do you actually say those words!? I don't want to embarrass him but come on, don't 30 year old men know they have to wash that area?!
lol. I think you are more sensitive than I would be with this issue. I would just tell my husband, " Make sure you wash your bum!" in a friendly manner, before he steps into the shower.
@Killingmesoftly: I'd say something like this too.
I've told DH bluntly to go put deoderant on, or brush his teeth. It's no biggie.
If you shower together just run the soap bar through like swiping a credit card, haha. Seriously though, tell him that he needs to wash his butt. He's an adult, he should know. Ask him if he would consider himself clean if he just hopped in the shower, let the water run over him and then jump out, since that's basically what he's doing with that area. I've had to teach FI proper skin care routine and sometimes he's been butt hurt about it, but he's gotten over it and realized that it really is better.
How about have his mom stop by and just "happen" to let him know he's smelling a bit rank?
Make her be the bad guy
This is the second smelly person thread in the past 24 hours that I've read.
Tell him if he doesn't wash his ass, you're not going to wash yours, and see how he feels about it. Hooking up with smelly ass is no fun. Trust me. I learned the hard way.
x.x
@Killingmesoftly: I was gonna say something like this too! lol
FI and I don't have much shame when it comes to stuff like this. So I would simply be like "when you shower make sure you loofa your ass with this special loofa. and use soap so you dont smell like butt anymore ya big nasty!!" and yes I would buy him a special butt loofa and present it to him :) but we are that kind of couple lol idk how else to approach it since we are this way.
Make him watch this compilation of Terry Crews Old Spice Commercials: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-m6Ua9Iqkg
Didnt his mother teach him how to wash himself when he was like 5? I have a vivid memory of being in the bath and my mother going over what body parts get washed when (mainly that face was first and butt was last with "cooter" being right before butt.... I cant remember where she said feet fit into that order). If you asked him once cant you bring it up again but push the issue? Say something like, "Maybe you cant tell but I can tell you that just soap running down your crack is sure as heck not enough. Lets just say there’s an odor." Guys tend to not be quite as sensitive as us so Id just face this thing head on and then move the conversation on.
On the TP note not everyone wipes their butt the same. My dad and stepmother had a discussion over why he thinks its ok to wear his underwire for more than a day. Turns out she wipes her butt once or twice, doesnt look at the TP, and is done. So she OF COURSE has to change her underwear after going number 2. He wipes until the TP is clean. Who knew there were different ways of wiping your butt?
Behold!! The butt loofah has arrived!!!
:::Curtains are drawn and velvet pillow holding butt loofah is revealed:::
@Torrid: Love this. When did you notice the smell exactly? Were you down there? Cause if thats the case you're being WAY way too nice. Doubt he'd like it if he was giving you some oral loving and smelled your dirty bum.
@Beautiful Bluegrass: My ex didn't even use TP. Isn't that disgusting? I didn't know until near the end of the relationship because we didn't watch each other use the bathroom, but I did notice the smell. Let's just say that it was one of the last "slip ups" that made me hit the road! He didn't shower regularly...AND you don't use TP?! I mean, pick one or the other, brother...but BOTH?
Hell naw.
Your story scarred me almost as much as my ex's hygiene. D:
@Mrs. Meowerson: thats exactly what I said! a butt loofah!!!!
Sidenote: FI made fun of loofahs before he met me and would use the bar of soap all over. Now he's a fresh smelling girly man that uses a loofah and mens bath gel from bath and body works lol if he is given anything else now he complains about how his skin can't handle it. he used to be a bar soap only guy. he even has his own shower caddy thingy with all his man bath supplies!
@Beautiful Bluegrass: She doesn't...only twice...changes after...oh lord.
I'm a little blunt with DH so I would say "Your butt stinks". He'd probably say "I know" and I would so "No really, point that thing the other way". I'm sure your DH won't be that upset.
@MrsCreeToBe: Dude, my DH didn't know he had to wash it either until recently! He was having trouble with itching back there, like a rash that never cleared up. In the process of him complaining about it and me asking questions, it came up that he (just like your FI) thought that water running down there was enough. Yuck!
It took some convinincing...seriously, and he's in his late 30s....for him to actually start soaping up back there. Guess what? The itching went away. Sometimes men are so dense...and kind of gross.
I would just tell him straight up. He'll get over it.
@Torrid: OMG that is SO bad. Wow. Didnt he notice that there was a problem down there?? Tell me you didnt wash his dirty underwear with any of your stuff :( Please.
@Beautiful Bluegrass: & @Torrid: I can't even...there are people who don't wipe until the TP is clean? There are people who don't use TP at all? Come on people, we live in a modern society! That is so gross.
If you are brave, grab a soapy washcloth and get back there. lol
I think you have to tell him straight up. This is not the first time I've heard of this with men.
Men are f'n gross. I constantly need to remind my FI of good hygene practices such as brushing teeth, tweezing ear/nose/unibrow hair, showering every day...He's not THAT bad but sometimes falls behind on personal hygeine.
My fiancee also likes to scratch his balls and ass constantly and it makes me seriously want to punch him in the ballsack. Maybe the reason is the same as yours and he isn't washing himself properly *barf*
I have had WAY worse boyfriends in the past too....I was with my ex for 5 years and I think I saw him brush his teeth three times. I put post-it nots on the bathroom mirror saying "Don't forget to brush your teeth!" and would refuse to kiss him if he didn't brush his teeth. He would put a stink up about it and just refuse. Lucky for me we never got married! lol
I think women grew up with pretty soaps, bubble baths, perfumes...and we just know that we have to wash ourselves EVERYWHERE.
This thread is disturbing. I thought this was only my luck with guys but apparently all guys are nasty.
@MrsCreeToBe: DH occasionally suffers from stinky bum when he's gone too long between showers, but he gives down there a good scrub with shower gel now after being told off for it repeatedly.
Have you tried getting him to wipe with baby wipes when he poos?
@Beautiful Bluegrass: I would encourage him to take showers with me because I take one EVERY DAY without fail. I feel gross if I don't shower. I just wasn't sure where the smell was coming from. I assumed it was either his natural smell or because he worked outside a lot because he was a soldier at the time. And then one day he asked me to bring him a magazine while he was taking a shit, and I did. Well, he kept talking to me until he was finished...and then just got up and put his pants back on without wiping! I was mortified! I looked at the TP, then at him, then back at the TP:
"You're not going to wipe!?"
"No?"
"WHYIEE?!"
"I never do."
"That's seriously GROSS."
"Oh well."
*SO THAT'S WHERE THE SMELL IS COMING FROM AHHHH!*
But we didn't live together. I would have bought him new clothes if we did and burned the old ones.
LOL i'm sorry but i am just picturing my FI in the shower becaue he will rub soap all over his butt and then press it against the glass so i can see.
Ohhh i love him.
BUt seriously. Just say "Hey, buddy, yes water runs down there but thats not enough"
Just tell him.
@bretonvirgniia: no men are generally gross. As a woman we are taught to really be clean and wash EVERYTHING. I thought it was common sense to wash your butt but given the posts in this thread idk now lol. FI has always been ok I guess with hygeine. Except his fingers....he's a mechanic and constantly has dirty finger nail beds. I finally just sat him down and gavehim an at home manicure and took care of it. Then made sure he knew I meant business from then on about keeping his hands presentable. Playing in car oil all day is no excuse for yucked out hands! there is this thing called soap!!! and a scrubber brush! ugh! gross hands\nails really creep me out so this was a huge issue for us.
Next time he's trying to get all frisky with you just look at him, take a sniff and be like..."Is that...your ass? Ugh!", and roll over, he'll scrub that thing down I guarantee it!
@Torrid: I have no words for how disgusted I would be.
A bit after my little sister was allowed to go potty unaided she began to scratch her butt a lot. Our mom pointed out that she wasnt wiping her bottom well enough. So cute little thing that she was, began wiping it so much she regularly clogged up the toilet with TP (mom actually created a whole new problem but that deserves a thread of it own). But she was maybe 5 when this happened. You'd think adult men would know to wipe feces off their body.
Guys can be so gross.
If he is a sensitive guy you could tell him how you read about some guy who got a rash because he didn't wash his behind (don't need to tell him you read about it here), and say something like "you better wash yours with soap before it happens to you!"
@Torrid: Omg. Your post makes me want to fall out. This can't be a real story. Why are you making this up?
That is totally gross!!!
Oh, they exist. They are like unicorns. Except disgusting.
@Torrid: HAHAHAHAHA
I just want to stalk your responces on weddingbee. they're all so damn funny.
omggggggggggggggggg haha this is hilarious...my fiance never used to wash his butt either until i blatanly pointed it out and said almost the same exact thing!! except his was "when the shampoo runs down there it cleans it" and then he realized he has never washed his ass in almost 24 years of his life hahaha...
he washes all the time now and thinks its funny that he just never knew he had to...and i showed him your post and he was hysterically laughing...it was just all too familiar
@stardustintheeyes: "ya big nasty" cracked me up! hahaha!
@relaxedabout it: well he would be a big nasty if he didnt scrub his butt properly!! 
I am killing myself laughing at this thread, seriously you ladies are hilarious!!
I can't even believe this, I must have the only guy in the world who is clean. SICK. Swiping the credit card and sniffing him saying "is that your ass? UGH" just about made me literally ROFLMAO.
@RayRayFurious: I wish I were making it up. But that was my life for 2 years. 0_______0'
It should be a mandatory question during dates:
"Well, John, I'm really glad you're into photography and football, but do you also enjoy washing your ass?"
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