Post # 1
My FI was pretty excited about the bridal party and his friends being up there with us but it’s been one issue after another since the start and now I hit my limit!
I couldn’t find anyone to be in it… after I did I was just upset with the people I was having stand beside me. After all that I had issues with my MOH not wanting to pay for a dress at all and no one really caring or was even sure they could be there for the rehearsal dinner. After all this I still kept on the same track for my FI because he wanted his friends in it…
However this past week at the beach his best man came to stay for 3 days… he was rude he was drunk from the time he arrived until he left a day early without telling us. I actually hate him and DON’T want him to be a part of our wedding let alone be invited. I’ve never been treated so bad by someone who was staying in my place for FREE. He even told us he wasn’t going to wear what my FI told him he has to wear because he has “something better”….
With all the problems I’ve had and now the added drama of his best man I don’t even want to have a wedding party anymore… it’s not worth the added stress to me. How can I break the news to my FI?
He’s going to get upset… I’m ALREADY upset… this is just going to end in a huge fight and I don’t know what to do!?
Post # 3
Wait a couple of days and tell your FI that you think it will be better not to have a bridal party. You can easily switch ppl to ushers, DOC, readers, etc. If he still wants a GM, let him know that you wont’ have anyone and it will look odd. Hopefully, he agree.
My FI didn’t want anyone to stand and I wanted my MOH. So, I have a MOH and his bestie will be one of the witnesses(marriage license).
Take a couple days away from the planning and relax. Weddings tend to bring out the best and worst in us.
Post # 4
You have another year right? You never know how you may feel by then. Just give it a little time and see if you change your mind then.
Post # 5
Maybe you should just think about it for a few days make sure that you make this decision when you are not too emotional. Talk to your MOH or another BM and tell them how you are feeling maybe they can change their attitudes a little. I think they would probably change their attitudes if you just told them that you are thinking of not having a bridal party because then they would know how serious you are taking things and how badly you feel. If you still think that you don’t want to have a bridal party then just explain to you fiance what you have been going through. Tell him exactly what you told us and let him know that its really fustrating you and stressing you out. In regards to his best man, I really don’t think that it would be fair for you to say that he can’t come to the wedding. Its your fiance’s wedding too and he obviously cares about having that guy there and might rewen the wedding for him if he isn’t. Not even inviting the guy that he wants to be the best man would not be fair at all.
Post # 6
Thanks girls. I talked to my FI about it and he said he is fine without the wedding party he is just worried his sister will be upset because she was looking forward to it… but we’ll both tell her together. He also said he needs time away from “that friend” of his now for a while too and he probably won’t see or talk to him until at least summer is over because he felt the same way I did. Guess were more alike than I thought. lol