Post # 1
So I’ve had 2 hair trials with my friend/hairdresser and they cannot get the hair right! I have a picture of exactally what I want for my wedding hair, I mean exactally. I just had a makeup trial and when the makeup girl was asking about how my friend does the”finger waves” and asked if he did it wet, and i said no… she got a strange look on her face. I googled it and yep – you’re supposed to them wet to get the look i want. My friend is a professional who went to school and works a really good salon, but just isn’t nailing the look. I have a lot of time before my wedding but I’m really freaking out over my hair!
How the heck do I get out of this? I don’t want to tell him how to do his job and say – hey try doing it wet, but I don’t want to end up with bad hair. It’s non-negotiable, i have to live with the pictures for the rest of my life.
Any ideas folks?
Post # 3
Maybe just tell him you’re going with someone who does formal styles as their speciality? Sticky situation :/
Post # 4
How about you show him what you found and ask him to try again? If it still doesn’t work tell him you know he does amazing hair but this one style is so fussy that you need a specialist. Make sure you blame it on the hair style you want and not him.
Post # 5
I think it’s totally OK for you to be honest that you aren’t happy with the results so far. It’s your wedding! If you have some time I think it’s totally fine to casually mention that you saw online the style should be done wet. Maybe he will try it and it will all work out. If not, assure him that you think he is awesome but you want a specific look that he hasn’t been able to pull off. Good luck!!
Post # 6
If you have tons of time before the wedding, there is no reason that you can’t learn together, since you’re friends. Seriously, don’t be awkward about it. Be blunt and funny and just say ‘dude, you start wet, helleeer’.
Post # 7
@Melmal9: I would tell them “I would like to hire someone who I can just make a business deal with, rather than mixing business with a friendship. Please come as a guest and enjoy the day” maybe you can give her a little task, if you feel like he wants to help. Such as handing something out, or managing the guest book.
But my approach would be just that you dont want to have a friend do it, you want someone you are paying, who if they mess up, you can make them redo (since youre paying them) it and not feel bad.
Post # 8
I am a pansy,I would probably tell him my mom purchased me a gift card for another salon and that she is really excited about going there.lol
Post # 9
Tell him you want to try it wet 🙂 !
Post # 10
You have almost a year before your wedding. I would do as WillyNilly suggested and just learn together. Tell him what you found out (that it needs to be done wet) and try again.
It’s really too late to use the “I just want you to enjoy the day as a guest” or “I got a giftcard elsewhere” excuse, since you’ve already had hair trials with him (which obviously means you’ve already asked him to do your hair the day of)…at this point any excuse you come up with is going to be seen as you not liking his work and going elsewhere.
So be honest. Tell him he’s close, but not quite on the money yet, so you did a little research online and it looks like you need to start with the hair wet. Try it again…if after a few more attemps you’re still not satisfied, tell him you love his work, but for this particular style you’re going to look for someone with experience with the look.
Post # 11
I think you should just open and honest with your stylist, If your friends with him he should respect your wishes and not take offence to it, not everyone can be great at everything.
Post # 12
@kellmerr: THIS is totally my style 🙂