(Closed) How do I tell my guests what to wear?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1735 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

maybe make a wedding website and mention it on there

Post # 4
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Maybe you can include “casual dress/attire” on the invitation? Or if you use very casually-themed stationary for the STD/invite, that (in addition to the location and word of mouth!) should hint to your guests that it is not a formal affair.

Post # 5
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Could you write something along the lines of “casual reception to follow”? Are your invites very casual looking?  I agree with the wedding website idea as well, but not everyone will visit that.  Is it a large wedding?  Word of mouth and being in touch with people personally is always a good way to get the message out.

Post # 6
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

“Casual attire preferred and welcomed!” then on the wedding website go into detail?

Post # 7
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would say ‘Neat Country Attire.’

And then if anyone is confused, they can ring you and you can explain.

Post # 8
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@takeusaway:  I’d agree with the PPs who mention adding it to your wedding website.  Also maybe by word of mouth, have your family and friends spread the word.  I wouldn’t say anything on the actual invite though.

Post # 9
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i think attire is often mentioned on invites: eg. black tie,  casual chic, etc so possibly say just casual attire 🙂

Post # 10
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s fine to put it on the invitation with the correct wording, I found this from a quicf google search

“if you don’t specify attire on your invitation, most guests will usually dress as if for a nice night out: men in jackets and ties and women in dresses or slacks. If you want to be more specific, include an attire line in the bottom right or left corner of your wedding invitation”

how about this: Resort casual or garden party casual

Post # 11
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Even saying casual is confusing. A poster (on the other side of this) just asked the same sort of question. http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/what-to-wear-26

The invitation style and tone set a lot of the formality of the event. Explain it just as you did on here on the wedding website. Include a tab called What to Wear. “Since the reception will be held _______, guests are encouraged to wear their finest denim and sunniest sundresses. Let’s keep it casual.” I mention denim specifically because you can write farmhouse casual or country casual or whatever you want on the invite, but Fiance and I wouldn’t dream of wearing jeans to a wedding unless a bride told us to.


Post # 12
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I dont check wedding websites myself, I would list something on your invite.

Post # 13
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The only time attire should be mentioned on an invitation at all is for a black tie or white tie affair.  Because your wedding is neither of those, do not put anything on the invitation.  Simply  keep the invitation casual-looking.  Describe the location on the weddng web site.

I’m hesitant to say yes to putting suggested attire on a wedding web site.  Adults can dress themselves and figure it out.  If they really have questions, they may ask you or your parents or future parents in law.

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