Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a destination wedding but are still planning on have a celebration in our hometown with those who can’t join us. We are wedding March 2009, and would like the AHR(at home reception) to be that summer but we won’t set a date until after the wedding. How do we let our friends and family who aren’t invited to the destination wedding know that we would like them to join us in our AHR and when do we tell them?
Post # 3
You can send a wedding announcement, and an enclosed or separate invitation to the AHR. The announcement would be sent soon after the wedding, which would also work for your AHR invitation, as you will need to set a date in order to send invitations. So – that’s when you tell them – when you have set a date for the AHR.
If you’re not going to set the date for the AHR until after the wedding, I can’t think of any good way to officially tell people before the wedding that they are invited to a later reception (date unknown). You can certainly let them know informally, although you should keep careful track of who you talk to – so that you don’t end up telling someone they will be invited and then not sending an invitation.
I don’t know what you are thinking about for your AHR, but a word of warning… unless its an open-house type event, you will still need to reserve a venue. If you want to have the AHR in summer of 2009, you will need to pick a location and date and start your planning before your March wedding. If you wait until the end of March or even the beginning of April, you are likely to have trouble finding a place still available. We booked our reception venue last October for our event mid-July (this summer) and luckily had picked three possible weekends – because two of them were already booked.
Post # 4
We did a combo wedding announcement/invitation to our post wedding reception that was sent out while we were on our honeymoon by my mom. We didn’t do a destination wedding – but it was a small family wedding where I live – so we have the second reception in my hometown so others could help us celebrate. Of course we already had the date set before the wedding.
I guess in my opinion you’d let them now in an invitation (which does not nesesarily have to be as formal as a wedding invite – remember the invite sets the tone for the event – my reception wasn’t quite as formal as an actual wedding reception – so my invite was pretty and nice, but way less expensive!). I’d send it out whatever the normal time is before an event. Maybe 4-6 weeks?
If you’re worried about friends/family being bummed about not coming to the wedding – word of mouth is a great way to alert them to be on the lookout for a summer celebration 🙂 Word will spread 🙂
Post # 5
We are having a small wedding where I currently live and then an AHR in my small hometown I grew up in. We are doing a simple BBQ at a local park about two months after our wedding. We spread word via word of mouth and through our wedding website. When we didn’t know the date, we just wrote TBA with a little description so people knew it was OK if they needed to miss the wedding because we were also doing an AHR. We are sending seperate inviations but they are very informal because our event is informal. We actually made them ourselves and they were very inexpensive.