- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Hi everyone I am new here and I need some advice!!
So I have sent the invites and have given plenty of time to reply, we have had quite a good response but still awaiting on a few but they have till 30th June so not panicking to much at the mo.
Anyways, the other day I spoke to one of my best friends and asked her if her mum recieved my invite and if so is it just her and her husband coming or are they bringing the little one too(my friends niece) as I know her pretty well! So she then informed me that they were all coming, all 6!! I was gobsmacked as the invite was only addressed to her mum and husband not the family! And as the other 3 who wish to attend are all adults it will put our costs up.
I then said to her that unfortunately due to our budget we only allowed for her mum, husband and the little one, and that we were still waiting for some of my H2B’s family to respond (which are more important to be fair!) so at the moment cannot accomodate until we know numbers, if we can accomodate we will but she threw a tantrum saying SHE did not want them as second best and told me that I had to tell them becasue she wasnt going to.
SO I emailed her siblings and the mum explaining that there had been some confusion and that the invite was only intended for the 3 of them but the other siblings were more than welcome to the evening reception just not the sit down meal….. But nothing! I have had no response from anyone! My friend is ignoring me and I have read reports for the emails but no replies! I would of called them but I do not have any contact numbers for them as I haven’t really needed them before and all contact is normally via my friend who is now ignoring me!
I just don’t know what she wants me to do our wedding is costing a fortune as it is as we have very big familes both sides and I feel it is unfair of her to assume the invite was extended to the whole family when it was addressed to 2 house members, if she was unsure she should have called me.
I don’t know if I have done the right thing? As now none of the family are talking to me, but I just dont think my friend realises the organisation and cost that is involved in planning a wedding, and has lost sight of the fact it is H2B and my day!
Thanks guys in advance!!