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I don't have a good relationship with my biological mother, however I want to send her a "I'm married" announcement.

I debated over the past few months whether I should send her an invite to my wedding because I didn't want to make things awkward for myself or my foster mom. I ultimately decided I should send her a "we're engaged" card, but in all the chaos, I completely forgot to send it. So now I'm going to send her a "I'm married" announcement. I think I'll include a letter, but I don't know how to word it.

How do I say "I got married but we couldn't invite you, I had wanted to let you know I was engaged but I forgot to send you a card."? Does this sound good (addressed to her & her 2 other kids)?:

Dear M, S & S,

I wanted to share with you that on May 22, 2010 I was married to husband' name. We had a short, small wedding and we wish we could have invited everyone. (now at a loss for what to write...)

~Serabell

I know the letter sounds awful for now :P.

I don't want this to sound like a business letter, but we're not super close so I'm not too sure how to word it. Any suggestions?

Well I think an engagement announcement would be too late because we're already married.

Thanks babymilka74, that sounds like a good way to end it. I don't have pictures yet, so maybe I could say pictures to follow? I'm not sure...

@awakemysoul - Thank you for the letter!! I think I'll combine yours with mine & a little of babymilka's idea. Yay I could not think of what to say at all, so thank you!! The main reason I decided I didn't want my bio-mom there was because she wasn't ever there for any good moments, was emotionally abusive & manipulative & always acted like everything was fine to the public & denied what she did to me. My foster mom isn't legally my foster mom, just someone that took me in & stepped in as my mom when I was practically homeless at 15.

My best friend also had this dilemma, she was adopted as a baby, but she had over the past few years, been in contact with her bio-mom. They don't have any hard feelings & wanted to be involved in each others life by staying in contact, not so much spending time together thou & she invited her to the wedding. My friend let her know her foster mom was who will play the part of "mom" at her wedding. Are you close to your foster mom at all?

Do you think you would regret her not going? I don't regret my biomom not being there at all. Do you want a relationship with your biomom in the future? I don't see blood lines being family, yes they're related to me biologically, however, I see family as the people who are there for me.

Don't do it just to be nice, or so as to not offend your biomom, only invite her if you want her there. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about it, or you can just reply to this post if you'd like.