Post # 1
So, I’ve been sitting here trying to write a wedding thank you note for some time now. I had a cousin that was diagnosed with cancer about a year before my wedding, and passed away about two months after my wedding.
She was married and had five children. She was pretty ill about the time of my wedding, so she and her husband did not make it in town. However, they sent a wedding gift from the two of them.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can word the thank you note? I don’t want to go overboard with my sympathies, but at the same time, I know I need to acknowledge her death somehow… hmmm…
Post # 3
Address it to the husband & family. Something like:
Dear Joe & Kids:
My deepest condolences for the loss of Kate. She was so special to me, and I will really cherish the times we [insert memory here]. If there is anything I can do to support you or your kids in this time, please let me know.
I also wanted to let you know how much hubs and I appreciate the thoughtful gift that you and Kate sent us for our wedding. We have used it [add stuff here].
Sending you love and prayers,
Post # 4
You’d address it to her husband. If it’s appropriate, based on what it was, I’d say something like – every time I use/see it, it evokes such special memories of ‘Jane’ (or you and ‘jane’). Thank you for your thoughtfulness in the midst of such a difficult time. You and the children are in our thoughts and prayers (obviously, only if applicable). You could always edit that to say something like: our thoughts are with you and the kids.
Post # 5
I like what Corgi said.
Ugh, I’m so sorry that you had someone who was diagnosed with cancer and passed away so quickly.
I wouldn’t know what to say either.
Post # 6
Oh my…that is hard. I am so sorry! I do like what corgi said.
Post # 7
Wow! To be sure you need to acknowledge the death. It hurts when people try to avoid the subject. Corgi’s note sounds perfect!
Post # 8
I like Corgi’s and the idea of adding what oracle said (I will think of her when using it part) if it was something physical and not a gift card or cash.
I would also choose a blank card with a non-occasion front, and not too bright. Something more traditional. You have to be able to look at the front and see it as a sympthay OR thank you card. I would feel weird if I got a card for thanks & sympathy if it was bright colored or too festive/happy on the front.