(Closed) How do single moms do it?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I remember those nights. I was a single mama, you will find you can do almost anything when you have to. Hope the night goes well.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I was a and technically still am a single mother of two!! Imagine that lol but you will be okay. Even tho your tired. Your body somehow tricks your mind when your forced to stay up with your child with no problem. Or with minimal problem. I always seemed to find energy somewhere. I think you will be ok. If the baby sleeps at all during the day sleep then also. Or any time they sleep you sleep. Premake a few bottles for night snd keep the diapers and wipes handy so you can feed snd change then put the baby bavk down for sleep again 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Jess1483:  The alternative is a sick 7 week old; much more terrifying than a healthy 7 week old!  You can do it!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I just had to do this last week with my 6 week old.  My husband went back to work.  He’s a pilot so I was scared to be home alone for 4 days with the LO.  The baby and I both had colds so neither one of us was getting good sleep.  And then to top things off… some jerk stole the brass shutoff valve to the water pipes on the side of my house!  So at 4am I’m outside in the freezing weather trying to man-handle the main water valve at the street.  I was in tears and was exhausted.  Don’t ask me how I made it through those 4 days/nights but I did.  When the hubs got home I slept for 5 hours.  My freakin boobs hurt from missing feedings but so worth it!

Hats off to the single moms how do this alone everyday!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have out loud wondered this several times to my husband. I honestly don’t know how they do it! My hubby is going away for business for 2 nights and I’m panicking so I have my best friend coming to stay with me for those nights so that I have back up if needed! I give major props to single moms!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

You’ll be fine. You’ll be tired but you’ll be just fine! Laughing

 

As for single moms…we’re extremely adaptable and run on pure caffinated adrenaline at times! lol

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You know, I’ve been wondering this a lot myself.  My little girl is one month and I can’t imagine doing it alone.  My mom had all three of us by herself before I was even one!

 

I have newfound respect for all the single parents out there!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s quite hard.

However, and I’m not going to be pro-single parent or anything, but I found it actually became EASIER to parent once I got divorced and moved far away from her dad. 

I know this thread was meant to be light hearted and appreciative, so I don’t mean to be debbie-downer……  but once I was a single mom to a 3 year old there were no more arguments over what I was doing “wrong”.  No more “mommy said no, but daddy said I could do aaaaanythiiiiiing I want”!!!!!  No more watching him yell at her and her cry and then me try to make it better and him yell at me.

I also didn’t have to do most of the parenting and most of the house-cleaning and most of the couple/relationship management.  So, even though I had to start doing 100% of the parenting and 100% of the house… there wasn’t re-work or frustration and I didn’t have to constantly stroke his ego and make him feel like a “man”.

I guess my point is…. if you have a great guy, then single parenting would be HARDER then if your guy is an a$$.  I had an aunt and uncle who were like perfect for each other.  Great marriage, great kids, really happy. Then he died and she became a single parent – in the early 80’s.  She didn’t even have a job.  So, she went from this GREAT situation….. to having to figure out how to raise 2 little girls all on her own.  THAT would suck.  Me dumping my ex?  not as bad.

 

What I do know…. is that, really, as long as you don’t drop the baby down a flight of marble stairs…. odds are you will both survive!  That thought got me through MANY a series of long, sleepless nights.

YOU CAN DO IT!

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