Post # 1
I saw another bees post a while back and it kind of shocked me about the number of bridesmaids you have should be 1:50 guest ratio. Apparently it was etiquette. Well I was updating my registy and it asked me about how many guests I was expecting to have (150) and it suggested that I register for $15,000 worth of stuff. I dont expect for each one of my guests to gift us $100. Thats unrealistic IMO. What was the average that you expect to or did receive from your guests?
Post # 3
@jesssamesssa: I know we’re not supposed to “expect” anything from our guests, but based on what my parents typically give to their friends’ children, a few couple will probably give us $500, another few will maybe give us $50-$100. That being said, as long as people show up and have a good time, I’ll be happy!
Post # 4
I don’t expect anything from guests but when we attend a wedding we give $75-150 from each of us that attends and $50 from each if one or both can’t make it.
From my own wedding experience 75-100 per person between shower and wedding was about Right. We had 72 guests and received about $5000 cash and probably close to $1000 in boxed gifts at the wedding and another $1000 cash and easily $1000 worth boxed gifts at my shower.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@jesssamesssa: Wow, I’ve never heard any figures like that and think it would vary WIDELY.
I didn’t register for any specific amount, although Target gave me this guide of items in each price range that we should register for like $0-10 – 15 things, and so on. I just registered for what we needed (which wasn’t that much) and after our shower there was next to NOTHING on the registry so we got mostly cash or personalized gifts for our wedding. I’m not quite sure what it boiled down to per person tho.
Post # 6
@mchitt329: Yeah, I was shocked. When I go to a wedding I give $50-100 in gifts depending on my budget at the time.
Post # 7
@jesssamesssa: It really depends on your region and the affluence of your family/friends. Culture, too. FI and I try to give a gift in the $100 range, bigger if we’re closer to the couple, smaller if we had to fly to get there. If it’s cash, we give an even $100. When we were in early grad school friends told us that they didn’t even expect gifts because we had so little money. Now? Friends get much larger gifts because we have much bigger salaries.
I’d ask around, to your mom, dad, aunts, uncles, friends, etc. and see what price range they normally buy in for wedding gifts and plan accordingly. From what I understand, you’ll be surprised by the generosity of some of your family and friends.
Post # 8
@jesssamesssa: I don’t think it’s unrealistic. If I’m not very close to someone but for some reason have to go to their wedding, I will give $150 from FI and I. If it someone we like, we will give between $300 and $500. I would hate to be cheap at someone’s wedding. If I couldn’t afford to go, I wouldn’t :-
Post # 9
@jesssamesssa: the stores where I was registered said that they thought I should do two times as many gifts as guests, its mostly just to give a large variety. Even if you register for 15,000 you need to have a very large range. I think between my two registries it was probably like 7,500 (kind of a guess). I would say a good portion of this has already been bought and we haven’t had our wedding yet. At my shower, most gifts were probably around $50 with closer people doing more like $100-150
Post # 10
@jesssamesssa: Etiquette has nothing to do with bridesmaids…etiqutte are rules to follow to determine social behavior. I have no clue where that bee got that idea from.
People on the bee often confuse tradtion/ cultural norms with etiquette.
I have heard that you should register for about 2 gifts per invited guest.
Post # 11
Sheesh yall, I dont think I could find 300+ gifts to register for!! haha
Post # 12
When we registered they tried to keep pushing us to get more on there. We’ve been living together, in our own house, for a year now. What do we really need? We’d like cash more than anything, to put into a savings or pay some stuff off. I could pay off almost both of our cars with $15,000! That would be nice!
Post # 13
They do that so there is a huge variety of different gifts. We registered for a whole bunch of stuff that we knew we would probably never use. We got a lot of it and then exchanged it for the stuff we wanted but didnt’ get.
Post # 14
I guess Ill be adding stuff to my registries…..we have registered for 63 items total….lol
Post # 15
when i registered at macy’s, it told me i should have x amount of gifts in each price range based on the number of guests i was inviting.
this is just a guideline. invite whomever you want, register for whatever you want, and let the guests give whatever they are comfortable with.
Post # 16
@jesssamesssa: well, don’t forget — couples gift together (so there’s less gifts right there), and a lot of people just write a check! I always write checks, ever since I bought registry gifts for someone and then they got backordered and canceled or something, and I didn’t find out until after the wedding was long over with that I accidentally got them nothing at all 🙁
The point is, register for what you actually think you’ll want, and then stop. If people run out of registry gifts to buy for you, they’ll either think outside the box and get you something really cool, or they’ll just give you money. Both of those things are very welcome!