Post # 1
My FH and I live together and are sending out our STDs this week and I realized I have no idea what the approriate way to write our return labels. Do we put bride first and last night & groom first and last name? Just last names? Just bride’s name (my parents are paying for most of wedding, we are helping, but his parents aren’t..its his second one) Does it matter how we address the return label? Any advice would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
My FH and I live together as well, and we’re just using our first names for our return address, for example:
Meredith and Derek
2000 Anatomy Way
Seattle, WA 12345
we’ve have friends who’ve done this as well and it looks nice, and it doesn’t scream to your guests that you’re living together.
Post # 4
Because my parents were hosting the wedding (paying for most of it) we used their address as the return address on the invitation; the traditional etiquette says that the return address is that of the host/hostess. I actually used my name and address on the RSVP envelopes (although my husband and his kids moved in with me just after we mailed the invitations). Technically, the RSVP should go to whoever is going to actually keep track of the guest list – so if that is your mom, they should go to her, and if that is you, they should go to you. Just because your FI lives with you doesn’t mean that his name needs to go on the label, unless he really wants it there.
If you do use both your names on the label, yours would go first (just as it does after you are married if you don’t change your name). You would use your current name (first and last) and his current name (first and last). The one thing you pretty much can’t do (according to correct etiquette, and unless you want your guests asking a bunch of questions) is to write the address label as if you’re already married.
On our STDs, since they aren’t part of the formal invitation, we used just my address on the back of the envelope for the return address (with no names). The use of the name along with the return address is not really necessary for informal addressing.
Post # 5
For our save-the-dates, we used
Bride’s FirstName LastName
Groom’s FirstName LastName
City, State Zip
However, on our invitations, since my parents are inviting/hosting, their address is on the response card and is the return address on the invitation. We decided to be formal on our wedding invitations, but since technically my FI and I were announcing our wedding date on our save-the-dates, we used our address for that more informal occasion.
Post # 6
If you are uncomfortable with putting your names on there why not just put your address? I use an embosser with just our address and actually now that I think of it, my mom very rarely has my parents last name printed on the return address for invitations she’s sent out over the years.
Post # 7
For our STDs I probably commited a wedding sin but I just made a tiny label with just our address, no names. I figured it’s just the STD so it’s probably not a big deal, but now I’m wondering what we should do for the invitation…
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception
We actually did something different:
Her last name~His last name Wedding
and then our address
Post # 9
Ooh I like that champagne
Post # 10
I do like that idea champagne! That’s a great idea! Thank you!
Post # 11
I also did what Miss Champagne did. It’s very easy and it looks nice too.
Post # 12
For our STD we ended up taking the lighthearted approach and used Bride and Groom to be!
Post # 13
Since my parents are paying for majority of the wedding we just used their address for the return address on the STDs. Made it easier!
Post # 14
I was wondering the same thing. My dad is helping us here and there but for the most part, we are paying. I did see some really cute stamps on etsy that used just first names and they are relatively inexpensive so I think that will be the route we go. This way, we can still use the stamp after the wedding!
Post # 15
we lived together before and did our first names "tiny and teeners".
Post # 16
I made labels on my computer and they were small so only our first names would fit! We used
Chelsea & Husbandname
City, State, Zip
I also love the Lastname-Lastname Wedding heading.