(Closed) how do we get his female friend to fess up on something she knows about your FI

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Why does what happened in his past matter?  He is with you now, and plans to be in the future. His past is irrelevant.

Post # 4
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4935 posts
Honey bee

@b42long:  Honestly, I think the best thing for you to do  is to talk to your FI, not your friend. If you truly want to be in an open and trusting relationship, it’s important  that you talk to him about it if it worries you so much. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ask your fiance (it is between the two of you), don’t put that type of pressure on the poor girl.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

This is very confusingly written but if there’s something from your FI’s past that you need to know, you need to hear it from him.

Nobody else is obligated to tell you, and he is. If you can’t trust that your FI will tell you everything important that you should know, I would not recommend marrying him.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@b42long:  If it was before you, it shouldn’t cause an issue.

 

You really aren’t giving enough information for anyone ot be helpful.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree with PP who says not to put pressure on the girl – you can’t force her to tell you anything. I would address this issue with your fiance.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MmeSilverBullet:  +1.

OP, it doesn’t sound like you trust your fiance at all. If you can’t have open communication, maybe you should postpone your wedding

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You should be asking your Fi not this girl.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@b42long:  Do you think something happened WHILST you two were already together?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@b42long:  ask your FI. Not some girl who may be trying to stir the pot. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@b42long:  Unless you suspect that something happened between them while you too were together, I’m going to guess that they were involved previously and maybe it didn’t end so well. Only you can really judge if he is telling the truth and if this is something to, as you say, alter your marriange plans

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