How do we pull this off?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it would be a lot less drama to plan a wedding than it would be to call it an engagement party and then surprise everyone by saying it’s a wedding.  Many people might not go out of their way for an engagement party and would be disappointed to find out it’s actually a wedding.

Also, planning a wedding doesn’t have to be super stressful.  Keep the guest list low, pay for it yourself to avoid meddling mothers, and it will be okay.

Good luck!

Post # 4
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

I do just want to agree with pp.  An engagement party holds NO WHERE near the importance to me as a wedding.  If my grandson was in some district playoffs and you were having an e-party the same day, I’m going to the playoffs.  If it was your wedding, I’d have to ponder that more seriously and try to do both.

I just want you to really think about that and whether or not you could be let down by someone not attending what they really think is an e-party, but in reality is missing your wedding.  That could cause some hurt feelings for them too!

Just really look at the big picture and all the players when you decide this is what you feel is best.

Post # 6
906 posts
Busy bee

Have you considered doing a family only wedding? This might be the way to go so no friends of yours, his, or your mutual friends have no hurt feelings about not being invited. It could keep the numbers down. 

Post # 8
906 posts
Busy bee

@Shonzilla:  I love my friends more then family as well but friends come and go. Family is with you forever. 

Post # 10
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We are having a 2.5 year engagement. Honestly, the longer time I’ve had to plan everything the less stress I’ve had. We are coming up on a year for being engaged, and there is no way I could’ve planned everything in a year. But I’m a bit of a procrastinator and take awhile sometimes to make up my mind on things.

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