Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Basically I’m 31, FI is 40. He’s been married before and I have not but we both work full time and provide for ourselves. We do not need anything nor want anything from anyone. But I feel tacky asking if they want to give us cash (which would go towards honeymoon anyway). So how do I tell people we are registering our honeymoon so any “gifting” should be towards that?
Anyone else do this or know of someone who did this? Any tips or advice is welcome.
Post # 3
To answer your question: there are websites, like HoneyFund.com that let you register, or sometimes even the individual resorts have programs where people can gift you parts of your vacation.
Make sure you check that they don’t charge a fee. A lot of these sites charge a percentage for their own profit (meaning, I think I give you $100, but they only give you $97.75 or something like that).
Now, fair warning, a lot of people (including myself) find honeymoon registries off-putting, so you may end up with cash gifts anyway. You’ll also probably get some strong responses to this thread!
Post # 4
I think the usually accepted way to get word out about a registry is word of mouth, but I think it depends on your area and circle of friends. We just told our moms so that they and we could respond to anyone who asked.
I’ve also heard that depending on the culture, if you don’t register people will assume that you prefer cash.
In Hawaii where we got married most people give cash for weddings, could this be the case where you live? We got a total of four wrapped gifts at our reception (and one was a gift card from some friends who wrapped it in several layers to prank us ;).
Post # 5
HM registries are hit and miss. Some people love them and some find them offensive. I myself find them rather off-putting since most sites charge a fee and I’m not actually buying the couple a massage or snorkling trip – the couple just gets one big check at the end. So it ends up being a round-about way to ask for cash. Given that, I wouldn’t register and just tell people – when they ask – that you are saving up for a HM. You can also have our family loud mouth spread the word.
If you do decide to have a HM registry, treat it like a normal registry and put in your wedding website or spread via word of mouth. Don’t include it on or with your wedding invites.
Post # 6
i personally LOVE honeymoon registries and think they are great for people who don’t want cash or homeware.
HoneyFund is great because they don’t charge for the service (although you can choose to upgrade to a premium account – that’s how they make their money) and the only charge for a direct money transfer into your account is by paypal (which is pretty cheap).
you’ll always get people like abbie017 who don’t agree with these things, but honestly I think that if it’s what YOU want, you should go for it.
when i go to a wedding, i give the type of gift the couple wants, not the gift i want to give.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Thanks everyone. I know my grandma and my dad are going to be one who do not agree with this and will probably get us a gift anyway lol. Which is fine I know some people think its rude to ask for cash or cash towards something. In all honesty if we recieved a gift at our wedding there is a good chance we’d take it back anyway because we don’t need anything.
Of course it would be completely up to our guest if they would rather give us a cash gift in a card or gift card or whatever, but who wants to use a wedding gift card for everyday items which is what we would do more than likely.