Post # 1
So, for my wedding band we opted to do 2 bands instead of a guard. This way, we can still achieve the look of a guard, but if (and WHEN) I want to just wear a band by itself, I can. The rings will go as follows: band e-ring band. However, I would like all three rings to be part of the ceremony… Should I wear my e-ring and one band on my right hand? Should I give all three rings to our BeM?
Back when we were considering doing a guard, I had automatically assumed that the ring would already be slipped in to the guard and then given to our BeM… I didn’t think the ceremony technicalities through before I opted to go to 2 seperate bands (I don’t regret it at all, but I’m just trying to figure out how to work it all out!)
Here are some options:
1. BeM have ALL three rings, and FI tries to slip them all on at once (which might be clumbsy looking)
2. Wear one band and my e-ring on my right hand and only give one band to the BeM. Switch the rings over afterwards.
3. Give one band to FI and one to BeM and wear only my e-ring on my right hand. BeM will give FI the ring he slips on my finger, and then after the ceremony I can move the rings to the correct finger, and FI can slip another ring on my finger. (This would be, of course, after the ceremony. Not during. Just as with option 2, it would be after the ceremony.)
4. Other Option! Please explain!
Post # 3
#2 is a really graceful and appropriate option. Etiquette says that you should wear your engagement on your right hand if at all.
You do not want to fumble with an engagement ring and two bands. It rarely goes smoothly and I think it takes away from the ring exchange part of the ceremony.
I was at a wedding where the groom tried to put three rings on the bride’s finger. He dropped one, and then put them on in the wrong order. It was very clumsy and the bride was obviously annoyed.
Another wedding, the bride wore her engagement ring on her ring finger, and the groom took it off, slid it in its wrap, and dropped it before putting it back on her finger. I always try to plan for the worst case scenario.
Post # 4
@MlleDarcy: The only reservations I have about wearing 2 bands on my right hand is that I feel like it might be weird… since you’re not suppose to wear 2 bands until you’re married (even though it is on the right hand I still am feeling like it might detract from the overall feeling of wearing all bands together… LOL).
I also clarified option 3.
Post # 5
Here is what I did.
Arrived at the Wedding Site, and moved my ERing to another finger / Right Hand
(lol I cannot recall which one as I was very emotional… but I’m guessing it was my right hand as that is the norm Etiquette wise as another Bee mentioned above)
When it was time for Mr TTR to say the Vows and place the WBand on my finger, he led with the most sparkly one (my main WBand)… put it onto my first knuckle, and followed with the second band.
Then in the part of the Ceremony where it is pushed into place, he just slid them both into place.
So they BOTH were considered part of the same thing / action. One sparkly, one plain.
After the Ceremony (lol, it was quick & sweet as it was an Elopement on a Beach Destination Wedding)
I just moved my ERing back onto my Ring Finger… into its appropriate spot… closest to my finger tip.
So when we were done my finger looked like this…
Closest to my heart… WBands… Sparkly & Plain… then my ERing
Here is a pic that was taken immediately after the Ceremony.
Hope this helps,
Post # 6
I’d wear them on the same finger. Even though it’s not proper etiquette it would still look nice. (So, option 3 and just adjust them after the ceremony to the way you like wearing it.)
Post # 7
EDIT TO ADD…
I wore them in the above 3 Stacked Combo for the first 24 Hours or so… (sentimental me)
Then all bets were off… lol
Ever since they can be seen in any assortment of combos…
1, 2, 3 Rings… Mix & Match.
(It is nice that my Ring Fingers on both hands are the same size)
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
Am I totally missing something here? Why not just wear the ering as normal, give Best Man the two wedding rings, and he can give them to FI to put on? After the ceremony, you just take off all bands and arrange them the way you like. That’s how it’s generally done with one band, so just pretend the 2 are 1.
Post # 9
I voted for #2.
I have two wedding bands and an e-ring. I wore the e-ring on my left hand (doesn’t fit on my right) and my DH put only one of the bands on during the ceremony, he had the other one in his pocket. I slipped them all on and rearranged after the ceremony was over.
Post # 10
I would wear your e-ring on your right hand during the ceremony and use BOTH of your bands — but at exactly the same time, not consecutively — for the exchange of rings. That way, both TRULY ARE your wedding bands. Your FI can slip both over your finger simultaneously as if they are one thicker band. You then can adjust the rings into whichever order you wish after the ceremony has concluded.
Post # 11
Thank you all, all suggestions have been incredibly helpful. While I was writing this, we got a call saying my rings were in… so…. now I am trying them on. It actually seems very simple to do as@Brielle: suggested, because they are both very slender rings. Both of them together look like one ring.
Post # 12
@Brielle: This is what I plan on doing if I decide to get a 2nd band.
Post # 13
@pinkeclipse: I think that’s a good plan. 🙂
Post # 14
Is there a way to clip the two rings together so there’s no chance of him fumbling with them? I think treating them like one thick band just for the ceremony is a great idea.
Post # 15
@GamersBride: I’m in the same boat. Do your rings fit on your right hand? I like the idea of slipping both on and then rearranging. I have two bands and plan on wearing them on each side of my ering. nothing fits on my right hand though:(
Post # 16
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I haev two bands and an e ring. For the ceremony, I kept my ering on my left hand. He held the two bands together (they fit together so not difficult) and put both of them above my e ring. As soon as the ceremony was over I rearranged before anyone saw them. No one is taking pictures or anything until you’re done with the ceremony. As soon as we recessed I just pasued and rearranged while we were collecting the BP for pics.