How do yall split the cost?

posted 3 years ago in Money
  • poll: How do yall split costs?
    50/50 : (22 votes)
    18 %
    Percentages like Suze Orman : (58 votes)
    49 %
    Other- explain : (39 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @maypearl:  I made 1/4 of what DH makes. I tried to pay half, but ultimately couldn’t.

    I think you guys should sit down, preferably while talking about wedding plans, and go “Look. If I keep paying half of the bills, I don’t have enough left over to save for the wedding fund, too. Do you want to be the main saver for the wedding, or can we split the bills 65/35, since you make SO much more than I do, and I’ll put the extra money towards the wedding, and we can both save?”

    Post # 4
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    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We originally split 50/50 (I earned a bit more than him) and when he moved into my house he was happy to pay half of the mortage, bills etc. as we knew that we planned to marry eventually.

    After living together for a while and getting sick of the whole – can you send me this much for this bill blah blah, we pooled everything into joint accounts. So. Much. Easier. He was a bit reluctant to do this initially as he felt he would lose some independence but when he lost his job that was the catalyst for him to realise it now had to happen. And he has lost no independence – we have an agreement that big purchases are discussed and agreed upon before hand but we are both free to buy things as we wish, keeping our financial goals and values in mind of course.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @maypearl:  We do the Suze Orman method because it’s fair.  We both end up expending the same percentage of our income to bills that way so it’s a much fairer division (I am the one that makes more so I pay a little more in dollars but since I make more that is only fair.)  Both of end up with personal spending money at the end of the month so nobody has to beg the other for spending money.  We are both also able to put more money in savings.  Some months I pay more of the bills because he puts more money into our joint savings.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @maypearl:  We live together and are not yet married. We split it based on what each person can afford. I have kids to take care of too. So he pays all the rent and I pay the bills, which is about 1/3 of the rent. We buy groceries based on whoever has more money that week. This way neither of us is left with nothing.

    Post # 7
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    1422 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Before we were married we didn’t live together, so we just kept everything separate. My husband usually paid when we went out, but I did sometimes, and then we switched off with groceries (because we did almost all of our cooking together). Then we each took care of our own bills/rent/etc.

    Now that we are married everything is combined. I am in school and I have two jobs, but my husband makes a lot more than I do. I have a bit more time, and a lot more flexibility, so I do more things around the house. 

    Post # 8
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    9226 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We will probably do the percentage thing rather than 50/50. We will probably be earning very different amounts and there may be times where only one of us will be working so it would be very difficult, if not impossible, to each pay the same amount.

    Post # 9
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    920 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    my SO and i have 50% of our paychecks deposited into a joint account which pays our mortgage, energy bill, cable, cell phones, groceries and other household purchases. currently we each use the other 50% of our pay for our individual car payments, auto insurance, credit cards, gas, etc. 

    i make around $500 more a month than he does (take home pay). so technically i am contributing more to our shared expenses. it doesn’t bother me that much since its not a huge difference in our salaries. also he paid more than i did towards the down payment on our home. 

    sorry that it makes you uncomfortable to talk about it with him. i am sure if you are collected about it all and tell him your thoughts, and the financial math of it, the conversation will go well!

     

    Post # 10
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    6928 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Right now we both make roughly the same amount of money (literally a 1K difference in annual salary) so right now we are fairly 50/50. When I finish my Masters next summer though, I will make about 10K more a year than him and I imagine we will go more of the percentage route. We currently have a joint checking account but separate savings accounts and a joint savings account for big purchases (right now we’re saving up for some home renovation).

    That said, when we were living together prior to getting married we were 50/50…and it didn’t work. We would split EVERYTHING 50/50, even though we didn’t make the same then. I was the one making less, so I ended up being the one with a bit of resentment. Coincidentally, I am also the better saver…so when we would be “short” money, I would be the one to have to pull from savings even though I made significantly less. Needless to say, being married & joint is MUCH better for us. In the beginning of our marriage we also kept separate checking accounts until we got frustrated with it and decided to just go joint.

    Post # 11
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    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We kind of do that…except we actually just split things so we have equal savings. Idk how much I pay percentage wise. I make like 1/5 of our household income. I guess I pay anywhere from 10%-20% of our expenses. My SO likes me to try to save half of my paychecks and she saves about 1/5 of hers. I’d be bothered that it’s kind of unfair to SO but it’s all “our” money anyway so it seems like I’m saving more but really we’re saving together.

    Post # 12
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    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He pays the mortgage, electric, insurance, etc, and I pay for groceries and the water bill, we split the internet bill. We are contributing equally to pay for our honeymoon but the wedding is being paid for by my parents. Our cars are paid off or we would each pay for our own vehicle. When we go out to eat he usually pays the bill and I leave the tip. For vacations we split the trip 50/50. It depends what works best for each couple. 

    Post # 13
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    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    DH makes more than me as I am a full-time student and my income fluctuates through the year. But our income goes into a joint account,  I pay the bills out of it, put a percent in savings,  we spend what we want within reason and discuss large purchases. 

    Post # 14
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    856 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    DH pays everything and my money goes to what I want. We never did 50/50 or any other percentage. I manage the money so I just pay as much as I can from his check and then I’ll pay a couple of things from MIT account.

     

    We have always combined money but he makes way more than me. If I have a big modeling job (usually around 3-5k) then it goes to bills or savings. BasicallyI pull from whichever account has the most money which is usually his. After I’ve done that extra comes from me. 

     

    Post # 15
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    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Right now, we have one salary (mine) so I pay everything. When we had 2, we put everything into 1 account and used that account to pay for everything. We made almost the same then. If one of us made significantly more than the other, I don’t know what we would decide, but I imagine that person would cover all the bills and the other salary would go straight to a joint savings account. Seems fair to just put everything into 1 pot and share it.

    Post # 16
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    856 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @PrincessPerry:  that’s basically what we do. Trying to figure out the “fair share” of what we pay would be too hard for us. We felt like if we were getting married his money was mine and vice versa so why not merge everything. We have separate checking accounts that are linked and the same for savings and then also a joint savings account.

    I shop and spend way more than him but we discuss large purchases. I paid the down payment on my new SUV but the monthly payments will come from his checks. The money is ours so I don’t get paying a percentage.

    i don’t really get when you a FI are splitting the wedding or honeymoon cost…it’s for both of you. I guess I always grew up thinking once married everything merged so I don’t get keeping things separate.

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