How do you accept a gift you don't like from family or SO?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What's your reaction to a gift you don't like?
    Say thank you and keep it and let it collect dust : (7 votes)
    58 %
    Say thank you and let them know you've returned it or that it's not your taste : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Say thank you and then secretly try to return it later and never tell them : (3 votes)
    25 %
    Say thank you and use it even though you don't like it : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Member
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    Bumble bee

    I find it’s a little bit different with each person. For example, my husband bought me a piece of REALLY “dominatrix” like lingerie for christmas this year…and to say the least I hate it! I much prefer more feminine lingerie like babydolls etc. So because he is my husband and I don’t want to waste our money on gifts I wont use in the future I said something along the lines of “Honey I appreciate the gift and I bet you’d love to see me in this but to be honest it’s not really my taste..but I’m willing to give it a shot if it means a lot to you.” Of course my husband would never make me wear something that isn’t me..and instead he offered to take me lingerie shopping instead. Problem solved! As long as you arn’t rude and recognize that it’s the thought that counts, I don’t see a problem letting your SO know that something might just not be your style.

    As for other family members/friends/etc I usually will thank them and tell them I love it even if I don’t. Because it can be crushing for someone to put the effort into getting you a gift when they don’t know you all that well to hear that you don’t care for it.

    Pretty much my husband is the only person I’ll gently & calmly tell if I don’t care for something.

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    4867 posts
    Honey bee

    With my ILs, it’s just not worth trying to correct, I know it would just cause a bad reaction. SO I just say thank you and that it’s cute…usually I also run into this with clothes because my MIL lovesssss Kohls. but their clothes never ever seem to fit me, the proportions are always off. But I know I can’t tell her to stop buying me clothes from there, so if it’s not too bad I’ll wear it around her occassionally, but if it’s totally unflattering I’ll return it and use the store credit for a non-clothing item. But no, I don’t tell her I’ve done this.

     

    If it was my DH I’m more likely to gently correct him (wellll I’ll admit it has happened not-so-gently before, when I ask for a specific gift that is not expensive and he completely forgets and buys me something else totally random and not me).

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    2122 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’m always honest with my husband.  We usually pick out our own gifts, so I can’t see not liking something ‘from him’ i picked out for myself.  With the ILs, we discourage gift giving and when they do give us something, we donate it to good will.

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