(Closed) How do you address an envelope for a +1 if you’re only having outers?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If there’s no space on the invitation itself, then I guess you’re right to just address the outer envelope to both Jane and guest.  Although doesn’t that kinda-sorta make it look like the guest is supposedly living with Jane Smith?  I’m probably thinking too much.  Your way would certainly work!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I don’t have an outter envelope so I’m trying to find out names and addresses of dates for most of the steady couples not living together (like my FBIL and his G/F)

If I don’t know who they will bring but they still get a plus 1 I’ll address the envelope to the individual and note the guest on the RSVP card by saying “We have reserved two seats in your honor / __ of 2 will attend / __ of 2 must decline” It just seems off to me to address the invite to an anonymous guest who doesn’t even live wherever I’m sending the invite.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

that was exactly how i did it. it was the only way that we could let people know that they are welcome to bring a guest. i didn’t want to waste the extra money and paper buying an inner envelope. we haven’t had anyone complain about the way this was done yet.

sometimes you just have to do things the way you want to and then not stress about it afterwards.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Id try and find out the name of the person they would bring.  Do you have something on the RSVP card to show that both people are invited such as “2 seats have been reserved in your honor”  or ” ____ out of 2 people will be attending?”  This way Jane Smith will know she can bring a guest.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that way is perfectly fine. Most people don’t even know there needs to be an inner and outer envoleope.

I wouldn’t try to find out the name of their guests because what if they breakup and then it’s like you were invite Jane and Bob no matter what when really you are only inviting Jane and allowing her to bring a guest.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I did not have inner envelopes, so I addressed them just as in the OP.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I think they way you have it will work – and, that’s how I’m going to do mine (as I don’t have an inner envelope either.

 

Post # 10
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t have an inner envelope either and that’s how I’ll be addressing my invites.  Ultimately, I don’t really think it’s something most people will look twice at.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I purchased some small squares of cardstock, punched holes in the corner of each, wrote the names as if they would be written on an inner envelope, and then wrapped a ribbon around the invite, threading it through the hole and tied it in a bow.

PM me for a pic if you are interested!

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