(Closed) How do you and your SO/FI/DH split expenses?

posted 5 years ago in Money
  • poll: How do you split household/life expenses?
    He picks up all of tab : (18 votes)
    11 %
    He picks up most of the tab (say 75%+), I contribute : (31 votes)
    19 %
    We split it almost 50/50 : (78 votes)
    48 %
    I pick up most of the tab (say 75%+), he contributes : (9 votes)
    6 %
    I pick up all of the tab : (0 votes)
    Other : (26 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    14347 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We put everything into one checkings account now.  All our spending comes from there, joint and individual spending.

    Post # 4
    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Now that I’m pregnant it’s all him. Before it was me 25% him 75%

    Post # 5
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Almost all of our money is in a joint bank account.  We save my entire salary in joint savings, and live off his, but it’s all “our” money so who picks up the tab for any given thing is only ever a matter of convenience.

    We each get $400/month transfered to our personal bank accounts for the sake of non-questioned purchases or surprises.

    Post # 6
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Right now we live separately so no real splitting going on there. Once we get married:

    – All money will go into a shared checking account.
    – We create a budget together every month.
    – Bills and shared things (like groceries, gas, etc) are paid out of the shared checking account.
    – We also each get our own personal alotment monthly. It is not tied to how much we make. That money is transfered into our personal account (just for ease of management, we will both be on all accounts). Things like getting hair done, buying clothes, fun stuff we want to buy ourself, comes out of that.

    Post # 7
    1368 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We will be pooling X % of each income into our living expenses and some funds, which means if he makes more he’ll put more and if I make more I put more into it.

    Post # 8
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Everything is deposited into our joint checking. We have joint checking, and CCs with both of our names on it. If we go out somewhere, Darling Husband still likes to be the one to “pay the check” even though it comes from a joint account. When we are at home, I am responsible for paying all the bills from our joint account because if it was left up to Darling Husband, he would either forget or pay them all late…extremely late.

    Post # 9
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I am a student, and my job doesn’t exactly pay well. We come close to 50/50 until you count in the wedding, which he is paying for almost entirely….so I picked that he pays for most and I contribute. Once we are done with the wedding it will be more even again since he won’t have to contribute to all the wedding expenses on my credit card anymore…

    Post # 11
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Everything is joint. My husband makes a heck of a lot more than I do but whats his is mine and what’s mine is mine… errr, his. 🙂

    Post # 12
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    our money is combined… so it’s whoever brought their wallet

    Post # 13
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Right now I’m doing most of the supporting because my job pays more and my husband is just establishing himself in his field. Hopefully, it’s the field he’ll stay in and grow to be very successful in. Eventually I’m hoping he’ll be making more since I would like to work part time once we have small children. Either way, I’m a teacher, so I sure hope one day soon he surpasses me since I really don’t have much salary growth to look forward to. I also tutor now and put those weekly checks in our savings account. However, everything I earn and everything he earns belongs to both of us. Yes, I technically am paying most of the bills since it is money earned from my job, but we both choose not to see it that way, since we are united and so are our finances. 

    As far as literally “picking up the tab” when we go out, we never go out since we literally don’t have the money right now because of said financial hurdles mentioned above. However, when we picked up some toiletries at CVS he used his debit card that belongs to our joint account. He’s very chivalrous.

    Post # 14
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We pool all of our money, so there is no “splitting” of expenses. It all goes into one pot and comes out of one pot. We do have seperate accounts for certain fun expenditures, like if he wants to buy a new toy or if I want to treat my girlfriends to dinner and drinks. We each get an equal amount each month for our fun money accounts.

    Post # 15
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    me and my Fiance have separate accounts… we will be opening a checking account and will be putting cash gifts from our weddings onto the joint checking account…

    Expenses now are pretty much 50/50… groceries and eating out is pretty much turn by turn…

    Once we buy a house or have kids then we will be putting more money onto the joint account and keeping the rest onto our individual accounts…

    works well for us right now 🙂

    Post # 16
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We’re currently very evenly 50/50; however, once we’re married, we’ll be combining finances, and he will primarily be the one in charge.

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