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Seriously, how do you answer this question? DH and I have been married for almost 6 months and we get this question ALL THE TIME. I never really know what to say! I say things are great and then there's this awkward silence that I don't know how to fill.
It just makes me laugh cause everyone and their mother asks us this.
@irin997: haha, me too! good wedding date, btw ;)
I usually say, great, fine, well we aren't divorced yet, lasted longer than the Kardashians - depends who they are.
I know they mean well, but it does get annoying, because how do they expect you to answer? Oh my God I hate him! I want a divorce!
@irin997: We also get this question all. the. time. My intial response was Wonderful, thanks! ... but it did then create some weird back forth of 'oh great!' 'yeah' 'okay' so I switched it up and now I say "Wonderful! SO much cheaper than wedding planning life!!!" That usually works as a nice flow bc then they laugh and say something like "yeah, i bet hahaha"...
It's become my go to :)
I always answer with " *pause* .... It's the same as before we go married".
We've only been married almost 2 months and we also get that question all the time. I think people are just trying to make conversation and that's something they think of since it was a big recent event that happened in your life. I usually just say It's great too when someone asks that. I think they also may want to know if anything has changed.
I say it's the same as it was before married - it'd just be more expensive to leave ;)
Well I think the permanent grin that is plastered to my face is answer enough, but if pressed I will get all sappy about how much I love being married to Mr. LK and how "husband" is my absolute favorite word in the English language. What can I say? I'm so head over heels in love that it's disgusting.... and I love it!
I always say "It's amazing!" and then most people say, "OMG amazing?". And I say "Yep, AMAZING!"
I always just say "It's going great! No different than before we got married, so I guess that's a good sign!"
It's just one of those things people ask to try to make conservation. Like talking about the weather or asking how your day is going.
When it's the pastor/old people at church, who must ask us every Sunday: "Great! We're very happy!" 
And sometimes I add something sarcastic, like "I still haven't killed him!" or "I think I'll keep him for a little longer."
With friends who aren't married I'm a bit more serious. With jaded married people I tend to sing my husband's praises.
I say, "Awesome, its the same but different".
Then they ask me what that means. And I say that he is the same wonderful man before marriage, but now I get to view him as my husband and there is a few extra perks.
I'm only almost a month in and I had one woman ask me if I still liked my husband and how things are in the bedroom...I nearly fell over!
"Pretty much the same as engaged and living together life. Except now we have a dog!"
I say things are great/wonderful/amazing - any positive adjective. then people will ask sometimes if things changed after we got married and i say "yes, for the better". then it gets awkward when they want to know how so. i am just not sure how to put it in words, its just better, like we are even closer and more committed than before. and who would have thought was even possible!
@Eva Peron: bahahaha too funny! How on earth does someone think its appropriate to ask you about your life in the bedroom!
@irin997: I have to admit there's someone I'm DYING to ask this to, since she was a virgin on her wedding night and probably the only one I've ever known. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, I just want to know what it would be like to have your first time AFTER marriage. The curiosity is so strong, I'm really worried I might slip up someday after a few glasses of wine.
@PurpleUnicorn: I totally agree. Somehow, in a way that words fail to describe, it is better. It's even deeper and more nurturing and safe and glow-y and silly and happy and and and...... it's just better than I ever imagined it would be. I count my blessings ever day, and our marriage is blessing #1 on my list! It makes me sad that not everyone is allowed to be married like us, but that's a whole other discussion.
I usually say "same as before because we've been living with each other". Sometimes I add "the only difference is we had a big party and now we have different title"
I usually say, "the same as it was before we got married."
But honestly, it just keeps getting better and better. Our relationship is like a fine wine...better with age :)
I guess the question really makes more sense for people who didn't live together before they got married, because it's a much bigger change that way... So you could get answers like "I love having him around all the time!" or "I never realized what a slob he was!" :)
@MrsSl82be: ha, yes this!
@lovekiss: It's even deeper and more nurturing and safe and glow-y and silly and happy and and and...... it's just better than I ever imagined it would be
and this! you are better at putting in words than me!
I either say "So far so good" or I say "no complaints so far" I dont know why people bother asking me this question but to be honest I used to ask that question a lot too. People just think they are being nice by acknowleging the fact that you are married, but I'm kinda tired of it now.
@.twist.: This is exactly what I say! "Uh...no different?"
It depends who's asking. For most people, I just smile and say, "oh it's great, you know, still settling in!"
You have to remember, people aren't asking to be difficult or anything, they're usually just asking to make conversation! (And it's a step up from just saying, "so how's it going?")
(And of course for people closer to me, with whom I feel like getting into a conversation at the moment, then I'll answer in more depth.)
I usually just say "The same". Which is true because we lived together first lol.
I say "not any different than it was before". We've lived together for over 6 years so with the exception of my new last name and the fancy marriage certificate that we now have, not a damn thing has changed.
It depends on who's asking. Genuine people get a genuine answer. My husband's police officer coworkers, however, are always fishing for a "awww man, its awful!" type answer, so I give them the squickiest gushiest love-puke answer I can... so most of them have already stopped asking 
The beginnings of my married life was different because we were still in an LDR and only saw eachother once, so needless to say...it SUCKED...alot! And every single person who asked me how married life was knew of our situation. I really wanted to remind them that they needed to think before they asked because seriously...how do you think married life is when you're almost 1000 miles apart and can't see eachother. I kept my mouth shut though. lol
I'm with those who say it's pretty much the same as living together, but I'll add that except now I get to call him my husband so that's nice. I've had a few people who were shocked by that response (mostly who have never lived with anyone or didn't before marriage) who expect me to say it's awesome and amazing and so different. But really, we knew before marriage that we wanted to spend our lvies together, so emotionally it's not different.
@joy2011: You are absolutely right, people are just trying to make conversation. However, I can never find anything else to say about our marriage other than things are going great, we're settling in....and then, nothing.
Maybe in a few more months people will stop asking. Instead they'll start asking when we're going to have more kids, lol.
Lol, I'm the same as you. We just say "gooood..." *awkward silence*
Yeah, I think most people want to know whether it's different, so if you say "Great, about the same as before we got married" or say some funny cute way in which it's different like "Well I've noticed a lot more socks laying around!" that will satisfy people.
I always say its great. If the person wants more I talk about how smooth the transition has been. We were in an LDR our entire dating relationship. I moved across the country 4 weeks before the wedding so there has been a ton of change for me. It really has been a much easier transition than I was expecting.
I usually make a joke out of it. My response is typically - "It's really great! (because it is) And when you're married, that's always the answer" Then they laugh and move along in the conversation.
i just say "it's good".
I should try "I hate him!" on an unsuspecting victim.
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